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7 Signs Of Strong Physical Attraction When You’re In Love

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When two people feel attracted to each other, there will be signs of strong physical attraction. Look round you, did you ever feel “something” when the person you like coming to the same room as yours?

Even when words are not spoken, their presence itself makes you feel restless. Well, it’s basically a sign and a signal of love.

Love can just happen, especially when you least expect it.

And the only things that matter right now are how he feels about you? In order to know that, you need to look for a signs of strong physical attraction between both of you. It could be easy, it could be not. Which is dependent on that type of person.

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But, if you look hard enough, you can see the sign of physical attraction spotted on just about any person. So today we will talk about the obvious sign of physical attraction between couples. The tips below will help you to get a better idea of what to look out for.

1# You Look At Each Other A Lot

According to Zick Rubin, a Harvard psychologist, “people who have a stronger love connection tend to hold eye contact for a longer period time than those who’re a weaker love connection.” He also said, “normal people in a conversation usually give each other eyes contact is between 30-60%. But for those people who are in love, their eyes contact will be around 75%. They are also not easily be interrupted.

When someone is attracted to you, they can’t control their eyes. They will look at you a lot, unconsciously. When they got caught, they got embarrassed and look away. I guess the same things also happen to you right? If yes, it’s a clear sign that you are interested in that person and you want something more than just a quick look.

When your eyes are all over him, it means that your full focus is on the person you like. It’s a strong sign of a physical attraction.

2# He Always Smile

A smile can be a big hint if someone is feeling physical attraction towards that person. Close your eyes and think, have you been noticed that you smile a lot when that “someone” talks to you? Or being close to you?

Yes? That is why a smile can be a sign of unspoken attraction as it means that seeing this person actually makes you happy. It’s almost impossible to contain your smile when you’re with someone who’s attractive to you.

The only downside of a smile is, it can be easily misleading or misunderstood. So you need to combine it with a few other signs to make sure that you are 100% correct.

3# You both seem nervous

Your heart is racing like it’s gonna explode. Especially when you are first time talking with each other. You feeling like you have butterflies in your stomach.

Because when we’re around with someone we find attractive, we may feel insecure and less confident.

I remember the first time I talked to my wife on our first date. We met online, so we never had a conversation face to face before. It’s not easy, we both feel nervous. I feel hard to breathe and lost of words, and she’s worse than me, her hand is shaking all the time when she talks to me. LOL

If you pay attention to his reaction, you’ll find out that he will play with his hand, or cellphone, or his clothes. His body actually telling you what his heart desires.

4# You share a comfortable silence

Silence is also a good indicator of some physical attraction. Well, it could be awkward when you sit silently with another person right? But you don’t feel that when you are with him. And he also feels the same.

If the two people seem comfortable together, even in silence, then there could be an attraction. Because you can only share a comfortable silence with someone that you want to keep them around.

People who are mutually attracted have no problems in sharing silence because they enjoy each other’s company already. If you have a calm feeling when he’s been around you, maybe he’s the one for you.

5# He tries to impress you

This is quite obvious, right? In my opinion, it’s good to impress the person you find attractive. We do it because we want their attention. My advice, don’t fall for the type of people who are trying to impress you using his body, career status or money. They may not serious about you, and the worse case, that is the only thing they cared about.

Instead, pay attention to something more specific and more detailed. As an example, you told him that you love a cat. After a few days when he texting you, he also sends a picture of a cat, or talk about his neighbor cat, or his friend cat. It shows that he is serious about you, listens to you and cares about your passions.

Another example, if you mentioned how much you looking forward to drive a Lamborghini and he bought that car for you. Marry him! 😛

6# Blushing and shyness

Blushing and shyness can be a possible sign of physical attraction. This sign is common for women, but also can be seen from men. When men approach someone that he is highly attracted to, he will start showing these symptoms:

  • Blushing
  • Stuttering
  • Suddenly acting shy
  • Or suddenly become extremely confident
  • Pay attention to his face or his ears.

When blood rushes to their face because they are blushing, his face becomes red. How cute!

7# He stares at some inappropriate part of your body

Man is always gonna be a man. You must be noticed that he love to stare at your cleavage or your butt. I’m sorry, but we as a man can’t control that. We love to stare at women asset from the day we were born. No offense!

Here good tips that you can try to your man. When you have dinner together at a restaurant. Ask him permission to go to the bathroom, then turn around to see if he’s checking you out from behind or not.

If you’re lucky enough, there could be a mirror for you to see straight to his face. If his eyes are following you, it shows the signs of strong physical attraction.

Conclusion

Now we already know that this guy is really into you. So what you should do about it? If you really like him, it’s time to make a move. But don’t rush, take your time to prepare. Jumping to a new relationship is a big deal.

Maybe you need to ask yourself these 8 questions first. Especially if you have a past relationship that continually failed. It might be best to reflect on your dating habit first. Take a few steps back and evaluate yourself before you start developing feelings.

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What To Text A Guy You Like – Explained By Guys

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If you ever wonder, “Should I text him first?” My answer is, of course, you should! But, let’s us go through with this article first. It’s may help you to get a better idea on what to text a guy you like. I will share more information on what you should and what you shouldn’t when you’re texting with him.

Nowadays, the text message has become extremely common for men and women to communicate with each other when flirting. Because, it’s a convenient, fast, and reliable way to stay in touch.

However, if you fail to manage how you texting with the guy you like, it can cause serious damage to your new developing relationship.

Anyone who’s ever dated knows how confusing and frustrating working out on what to text a guy can be. Is that right?

Text communication can be easily misrepresented. Because when we communicate verbally, we rely a lot on nonverbal signals such as facial expression and body language. And this is not happening in texting, so it’s could be a high possibility that your text will be misrepresented.

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Most women find it challenging especially when they start flirting with someone they like.

But if we look at the positive side, text messaging also can be very helpful. For starters, you can take your time to say the perfect thing. And the barrier itself can allow you to be more open than you would in person.

By sending up a flirty text message to someone you like, you basically send a few signals:

  • You let them know that they’re on your mind.
  • To open up the conversation.
  • To keep him interested with you

The only things that playing around in your mind right now are, what is the “right” text message? and which type of text message that you should “avoid“?

To win your man heart, you need to know that there are certain texts that can instantly trigger a man’s curiosity, man’s hero instinct, interest, and desire (I write more detail explanation in my guidebook here). On the other hand, there’s also a text that is a total turn-off and you’ll never hear back from him again.

A text message is the new language of LOVE

If you think carefully, a text message is like a love letter back in Casanova’s day. The only difference is you can receive a response faster, wherever you are. As long as your phone has the signal.

You can express your love through text message.

It’s also mean that you can be hurt just from a simple text message.

How is your feeling when you texted a guy that you really liked and got a cold, distant response? It’s hurt, right?

And how about if you never got a reply at all? You must feel like you want to smash your phone like wth?! Why he didn’t care to respond to my text?

Texting your love oneBecause of this type of experience, women spend a lot of time thinking about whether they should send a text or not?

You may write and delete, write and delete again because you’re not sure what should you text him?

Or you may also start thinking whether you’re needy, clingy or desperate?

And after you hit the send button, you basically will face another situation. We called it “waiting holiday”, welcome on board!

At this time, you’ll start checking your phone every two minutes. And you feel like 1 minute has become longer, 1 hour feels like a day! But you just keep waiting with hope…

Why isn’t he responding? He should’ve read my text by now…

Sound familiar?

It’s only one freaking text message, why it’s so hard? Well, there are multiple reasons why this situation happen. Keep reading.

R.U.L.E.S That every woman must know in texting

According to Amy North, a creator of Devotion System and Text Chemistry program. There are five important text message rules that ladies need to follow before you hit the send button. For me, this simple technique is gold. It’s so easy, yet women tend to ignore it.

Rule #1 Re-read your message

When you want to text someone you like, you may be nervous and just don’t even care about the end result. You just want to push yourself to hit the send button. My advice is don’t!

Take your time, read your text message a few more times before you hit the send button.

Rule #2 Use visual language

Men are the visual creature, they can’t translate a hidden meaning in your text message. They respond best to a visual language that gets their imagination running!

As an example:

Instead of…

“I really miss you”

You can change it to…

“I really want to kiss you right now”

This is how you can get your man’s imagination running. The same message sends with a different word. I will explain more about the flirty text example below.

Rule #3 Leave him wanting more

Don’t bombard him with the text’s message. As much as you want to get your man’s imagination running, don’t overdo it.

If you blow up your man’s phone with a pointless message, he may run from you. It’s the same concept of business. Don’t chase him, let him come to you and chase you.

Rule #4 Excite him! (No boring messages)

Don’t turn him off with a boring text message. As an example, “Hi” or “What’s up?”. By far, this is the laziest option when it comes to texting. And you know what, men hate this type of messages. I’m telling you from my own experiences.

When I received this type of text message, I tend to reply shorter.

If she text..

“Hi”

I will just reply…

“I”

For me, why bother to send me a text message if you’re not interested in texting with me. No offense, but this is what I’m thinking at that time.

If you really want to text him, you should give him reason to respond. Here another example:

“Hi dear. Been thinking of you all morning… What you’re planning today?”

In this example, you’re actually:

  1. Lets him know that you’re thinking about him
  2. Give him something to respond to

The entire point of texting is to engage in conversation.

Rule #5 Stay positive

The last rule is important for you to keep going. If you want to win a man’s heart, you need to stay calm and never send him anything negative and depressing.

Don’t send this type of text to a guy you like

Here are a few types of text that you should never send to a guy you like.

This is a silent killer to your future partner. The worse part is, most women didn’t know that this is the reason why he’s not interested in you.

Terrible text #1 Never ever text just ‘Hi!’

I’ve already talked about this at Rules no. 4, don’t text him with something like “Hi”, “Hey”, and “What’s up?”

If you’re interested in someone, show some effort.

This is not how you can tackle his emotion. There are so many more creative ways to get his attention.

Terrible text #2 Too many questions asked

It’s good to ask him a question to keep the conversation running. But don’t go overboard.

You may ask him a question about his job, his family, his hobbies and etc. It shows your interest to know him better. And most of the guys love to respond to that kind of question.

Just don’t overdo it. Don’t ask him something like, what are you doing this afternoon? What you’re planning in the evening? What you usually do at night? And you keep repeating the same question like every day.

It’s not healthy, and kind of annoying. He doesn’t need to update everything to you.

And if he doesn’t willingly tell you what he’s doing, then it’s probably because he doesn’t feel it’s worth sharing. That it.

Terrible text #3 Show him you have a life

It’s good to share your activity with him sometimes.

But don’t fill his inbox with your every waking move. No need to tell him where you had your morning breakfast, what time you feeding your cat, and etc.

He doesn’t care, nor does he want to know. But it still depends on your current relationship level.

Your objective for the early stage of dating is don’t make him lose interest in you.

Flirty text message example that can make him obsess over you

Texting is totally different games compare to when you talk to him in person or through the phone. You really need to say things a little bit different.

This is the part of the example that I learned from the Devotion System.

flirty text message that can make him smile

A simple text message that can ignite any guy’s visual mind. Remember rules #2? Use visual language. Guy’s response best to visual language to keep his imagination running.

By using this method, you can stir up his lust and desire, even if you’re miles apart from each other.

Flirty text #1 The “Comical Text”

The comical text is a light-hearted, humorous text to make the guy you like laughing. Make him smile.

Laughter is one of the easiest ways to go into a man’s heart. And men love women who can make him laugh. Be that women.

Here I found a great article from Dan Scotti: Why men should date a girl who can make them laugh.

But be careful, as usual, my advice is don’t go overboard. Don’t push yourself to be funny.

Don’t turn everything into a joke.

And don’t add “LOL” or “haha” in every text message.

Flirty text #2 The “Question and Arouse” text

This is when you want to get to know your guy a little better.

Did you know that you women have a superpower to ruin a men imagination?

Yes? So use that power!

As an example, instead of sending dull questions, like:

“What are you up to?” or

“How was your day?”

You can try something more interesting, like:

“What are you wearing right now?” or

“What do you want me to do to you later?”

This type of message really turns up the heat and arouse his imagination! It looks like you’re seducing him in a very subtle way.

Ladies, please do this to someone you love only. Don’t make this world crumble because of your text message.

Flirty text #3 The “Life Lover” text

This text expresses your confidence and love for life. The rule of thumb for this type of text is to keep your message positive with the passion for life.

Maybe you can tell him about your wonderful day that you’re having. Or share with him about the praise you got from your boss.

The concept is almost the same as the law of attraction. Positive emotion and positive energy will attract more positive energy and positive emotion.

When you told him about this, it’s okay to be bold and brave. It shows your charisma. And that guy will be like “wow”. I want to date this woman (let’s hope so).

Flirty text #4 The “Nude Illusion”

This technique is simple, powerful but quite dangerous. You may want to use these techniques after some times knowing him.

With a few harmless words describing an image of your sexy, naked body can excite your man’s mind.

By using this technique, you’re tapping deep into his dirty imagination. Making him unable to focus on anything but the thoughts of your sexy body.

As an example, you can send a visual text like this:

“I’m going to take a long, hot shower.”

“Guess who’s not wearing any panties? ;-)”

“Gotta go, I have to go buy a new set of bikini”

Reminder: Don’t send any nudes selfies. Even if he begs!

If you need a scientific explanation of why this work so well, you may need to check my other post: why do men love dirty talk.

And check this post if you want more sexy texting example.

Flirty text #5 The “Tickle His Sense”

Guys fear rejection. So it is important for you to show him that you’re interested in a subtle way.

In my own opinion, don’t play ‘hard to get’ with the man you like. I got a lot of response from men that they don’t like women who play hard to get. Except for the sex.

You should just flirt with him, laugh a lot and throw a compliment to him. Make him feels good when he’s with you. If you do this correctly, he’ll crave being around you.

Conclusion

I hope all these tips can give you a better understanding of what to text a guy you like. With these few simple techniques, you can get his attention and put you in his thoughts every time he touches his phone.

These techniques also work great if you’re already in a relationship. Because, in order to keep your relationship strong and healthy, you need to keep polished the relationship. Interest can disappear in seconds if you don’t keep sending the right things to push your man’s button.

And if you are interested to access a dozen of additional text message templates that will ignite man attention, watch a Devotion System free presentation video right now.

That’s all from me. Now it’s time to reach your phone and start igniting your man’s desire with a flirty texts technique you’ve just discovered.

And don’t forget to share your own experiences in the comment section below.

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Dating Tips For Shy Women – Introvert Alert

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There are not much dating tips for shy women, so when it comes to dating, the shy girl tends to draw the short straw. Whereas, the talkative ladies who’re outgoing and friendly are seen as more confident and flirty.

‘Did the cops arrest you earlier? Because it’d have to be illegal to look that great’

‘Can you give me the direction to your heart?’

Those pick up lines is a piece of cake for some ladies when she catches a dashing guy. But for a shy woman, it can cause a nervous breakdown. This is because they feel too chicken to start a conversation with a man even if they are interested in them.

Moreover, shy women may get totally flustered and tongue-tied if the man talks to her, or babbling when she wants to speak because of anxiety. No worries dear shy women, it is not wrong to be shy. Today we will share with you simple dating tips for shy women.

1# Choose the best outfits

“A girl should be two things: classy and fabulous”- Coco Chanel. Therefore, try to dress beautifully on your first date or whenever you want to attract a male suitor. Ask for some help from your friend or from expertise for a makeover.

But, choose a style that you’re comfortable to wear, or you will end up pull your short skirt throughout the date. Those clothing, hairstyle or makeup will make you feel good and improve your confidence level.

Besides, you also can wear unique accessories like jewelry or a vintage scarf in order to be a center of attraction. Who knows, those unique accessories may catch a guy eyes to look on you as well as ignite a great conversation.

2# Show off the right signals

Make yourself approachable by altering your body language to show some interest. Avoid crossing your arm or playing with your smartphone as the male will think you’re bored and dissatisfied.

Read moreHow To Start Dating – 5 Proven Method For Success

Instead, smile a lot while you’re talking to your friends and hold your head up. Here are some bonus tips. If you want your smile to look way more natural, try to think of something beautiful or any funny moments in your life. Be careful while thinking of those funny moments as I am afraid that you might burst into laughter accidentally.

3# Do some activities on a first date.

If you’re too nervous on the first date, try to do something that involves activity instead of a quiet dinner. This activities such as rock climbing, hiking, cook meal together or skating will help you to communicate with your partner.

dating-tips-for-shy-womenIt is because those activities need communication to progress the date. Hence, you will be less worried about what’s the topic you have to choose. Furthermore, it helps to find any similarities or differences between you and your partner.

Watch a movie together is also a great choice. Previous studies showed that watch movies together can lead to a better conversation because you can share your own opinion or argument with your partner. Next, it also aids to represent the “real you” where you can blow a fuse on conflicts or be a cry baby over a sad scene.

4# Say yes!

Shy girls usually tend to avoid taking any risk. Thus, you have a tendency to politely refuse his favor not because you’re uninterested. Please do not avert his intention because you will just put him in an awkward situation. In contrast, just say yes if he wants to treat you dinner even you are not hungry. Say yes when he asks you to watch movies together on the weekend and so on.

5# The crucial one: Be yourself

All the other ways mentioned above are tips on how to catch his eyes, but the most important part is for you to be comfortable with your own skin. Do not afraid to be yourself as he will notice you immediately for not being genuine.

Tell him you have no ideas about his work field neither his favorite classical music. Admit that you’re not the sharpest knife in the drawer is not a bad thing to do. Who knows maybe your partner find it is interesting to talk to you as you’re not like him. For instance, if your partner is very charm and grace, he might laugh over your nervousness.

Love is most perfect in its perfect imperfection. So, just enjoy your differences with your partner. If you like to do silly things, show them some. If you like nature, share some of those pictures. Just tell them how much you love about yourself.

Note: If you’re not sure about how he feels about you, you may need to check my other post on how to look for signs of strong physical attraction between both of you.

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How To Start Dating Again? Don’t Get Rusty

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After experiencing heartbreak, it’s not unusual to be scared to start dating again. Besides, the pain of a breakup can deeply effect emotionally. It may make you feel like you’re not ready to get hurt all over again in the future. Nevertheless, for some, jumping back into a new romantic relationship is a way for them to overcome.

Preparing yourself to start dating after a breakup needs some tips and a little guidance for a successful relationship. At the same time, the only way to get over a breakup is to move on. If you’re single and need guidance before getting back out there, here some tips for dating after a breakup.

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  1. Be Positive.

Keep your emotions in check in order to heal from betrayal and avoid it from happening in the future. In that case, it’s important to have a positive mindset when getting back into a new relationship. Think logically and understand the need to move forward because A positive mindset leads to positive behavior.

  1. Don’t Compare.

The biggest hitch among a couple is comparing the people they’re seeing to their ex. This is the main “don’t” that should be followed by all. Value each other and start all over again. Different relationships teach us different things, they help us to learn about love, and about what we deserve.

  1. Don’t hold your past against them.

If someone treated you desperately in the past don’t let it affect your new relationship. Open up to your partner about it so that they would understand. Also, take time to overcome the shock, sadness, anger and let negative feelings come out before everything starts from zero again.

  1. Choose your partner wisely.

You’ve already dealt with one breakup; if you feel a new date is just not doing it for you or not trustworthy, get rid of them.  Choosing a person who doesn’t inspire faith will only lead you to distrust everyone as a whole. Even salt looks like sugar. So, watch your steps when you decide to choose your new partner.

  1. Less Expectations.

Finding a good partner takes time. Finding the love of your life immediately can stop you from enjoying at the moment and being single. Besides, things are not always being right as of how we expect to be. It is okay to be alone for a while then being in a wrong relationship again. Heal properly from your last relationship and then you can start to have expectations.

We are in a generation where it’s easy to give up and walk away. But don’t do that. Listening to your heart is all you can do. Whether you want to stay totally single or find your next love, all that matters is making healthy choices and putting yourself and your happiness first, always.

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How To Start A Conversation With Your Crush

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It’s not easy to start a conversation with your crush right? Most of the time, you’ll just be dreaming that you already have a conversation with him.

That day, was the best moment ever!

I have finally found a light that can drive out the darkness of my life.

The light that makes my heart goes crazy whenever I bump into him. His captivating smile has melted my wall and let my guard down. Thinking of him is now my favorite daydream.   

That day,

Was the day that I met my first crush.

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At least once in a lifetime, we might have a strong attraction or crush towards someone. The way they walk, talks or appearance make us admired them intensely but it does not last long.

If you are lucky enough, your crush might like you back. When two people have affection towards each other, then it is love. Although it rarely occurs, there are several ways to catch their attention.

1- Conversation is the key

The conversation is the key, brave yourself to start a conversation with your crush so that he or she will notice your presence. Stop them just for conservation might seem awkward. You can use any of your social media if you want but try to make a great conversation first before asking their number. Be careful of not getting caught by request it casually with really low pressure.

For example, “Hey, I think chatting through cell phone is much easier, why don’t we trade cell phone number?”

2- Start with a text message

If you already got his phone number, then text message can be very helpful. By using text messages, you can take your time to say the perfect things to him.

You also can re-check your message before you hit the send button. The barrier itself can allow you to be more open than you’re in person. I definitely suggest you check my other post on what to text a guy you like.

I share a lot of text message technique that you can apply to your crush.

3- Plan your strategy

Choose your topic wisely and arrange your questions to ensure the coherence of the conversation. Questions that are too personal put them in an uncomfortable situation. A long conversation will annoy them while short cause boredom.

4- Do not rush in expressing your feeling

Take your time in telling your crush about your true intention. It is very significant to make them feel comfortable with you. Sudden confession causes them to be startled and cut off contact.

5- Observe their reaction

You can determine whether your crush has interest in texting with you by observing their actions.

If their reply is too short or it looks like want to end the conversation, you better take a break. It could be because they are busy or not in a good mood. Do not push them because its look like you are too desperate.

In contrast, if their responses are positive by asking you question such as ‘what are doing?’ It’s mean that they are enjoying talking to you. So grab this chance to know them better. Avoid from ending the conversation, let them end it.

After you are confident enough find a suitable chance for you to confess.

6- Find their interest

Some people don’t talk much not because they don’t like it but they are clueless about those topics, shy or has nothing to say. Therefore, your job is to find their interest. You can ask about their hobby or activity that they involve.

7- Be sympathetic

True crush means you know them like the palm of your hand. Your crush sometime might have a very bad day. Then, that is the time when you text something to console or cheer them up just to show them that you care.

Good luck in confessing to your crush. And well done if you already catch their heart. You may need the extra knowledge on how to start dating after you read this article.

On the other hand, if you got rejected by your crush, don’t worry they are plenty of fish in the sea. So who knows you might catch a big one later on. Cheers!

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8 Question To Ask Yourself Before You Start Dating

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Entering a new relationship is a big deal. Especially if you have a past relationship that continually failed. Dating is crucial because it’s the first stage for a successful relationship. So if you’re having thought to start a new relationship, it might be best to reflect on your dating habit first.

It’s good to take a few steps back and evaluate your own self before you start developing feelings. Ask yourself these eight question to see if you really should continue to develop a serious relationship with your prospective partner.

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1- Are you ready?

Relationship is a commitment, it’s required your time and your energy. You need to make sure your current lifestyle is ready for that commitment. If you still in the middle of building a career, pursuing your dream or solving your family problem, it might be best not to throw another human being into the mix.

I’m not saying that you couldn’t start dating because of the reason I stated above, but it’s good to wait until the storm has passed before you start inviting another crew member into your ship.

There are a few other things that you can prepare (your own-self, mindset, appearance) before you start dating. You can read it here on my other article, how to start dating – 5 proven method for success.

2- Do you love yourself?

Learn to love yourself before you can healthily love another person. You can love yourself by taking care of your health, maintaining a good diet, going to the gym for exercise, take care of your appearance and etc. If you want a good partner, you need to be good to yourself.

Did you know that your partner is a reflection of yourself? If you just live your life without any restriction or disciplined, then you will only match with people at the same level. I’m not trying to judge, but I’m just being realistic.

3- Do you have a vision for your life?

This is quite related to point no.2, you need to have a clear vision for your future. It refers to your personal character growth and dream. What type of person did you want to be? How did you want to live your life? What your dreams? How to achieve your dreams?

You need to answer all of this question to have a better understanding of what you want in your life. This is your vision, and it will definitely affect your relationship. Configure any certain things that important to you, such as where do you want to live or how many children you want? This can make dating easier because you already know what kind of partner that can live with you.

4- What are you looking for?

Seat back and reflect on what is your personal goal that you’re looking for in this upcoming relationship. Are you interested to start a serious relationship or just want a happy ending relationship? Deciding what you really want before you start dating someone is absolutely essential so you can ensure that both of you are on the same page.

As an example, if you want to get married in the near future, you can’t start dating with someone who has different objective from you. If not, your relationship won’t work well. You can’t expect your future partner to agree with all your decision or planning.

5- Do you have time to commit to a relationship?

Ask yourself how busy are you before you decide to start dating. If you’re a type of person who works until late at night, even on the weekend, then you need to check back your schedule first. Which one is important and which one is not?

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And if you’re in the middle of pursuing your dream, and working longer hour per day is necessary, then I personally think that you need to hold your intention to start dating.

Building a new relationship takes time and effort, don’t be someone who says yes at everything when you start dating, then you leave your future partner hanging because of your hectic schedule. Again (back to point no. 4) knowing what you’re looking for ahead of time is essentially important.

6- Do they take care of themselves?

It’s not about hygiene (part of it is yes), but I’m talking about overall. How they live their life? Did they take care of their health? Exercising their body? Conscious of their diet? Feeding their brain? Or take care of their mental health?

Because later on, all of this will directly affect your life, you will spend most of your life with them as a partner. So it’s important for you to know about this. I’m not suggesting you be a picky person, nobody is perfect, it’s just good to be prepared.

Someone who doesn’t take care of themselves, probably don’t love his own selves. And if they don’t love themselves, they absolutely can’t love you in a healthy and fulfilling way.

7- Do they get along with your friends and family?

Some of you might think that this point is not really important. Who’s care whether your partner gets along with your friends/families or not? As long as your partner is good for you, right? Honestly, I’m not 100% agree with that.

Basically your close friends and family members approval usually weighs heavily on the outcome of the relationship. When you have a relationship with someone, you’ll automatically have a relationship with their families. We all want our partner to be nice to the people we love.

8- Do they fit in with the picture you have for your future?

What the point of dating if you don’t see some sort of future with them, right? If you just dating for fun, you’ll not read this kind of article. The reason why you read this article is because you take dating seriously. You want to plan your future, and maybe you don’t want to repeat the same mistake.

So if you and your partner doesn’t have a lot in common, have a very different belief system, and you just don’t happy with your upcoming relationship, you better call it quits. Don’t blame yourself or your partner, it’s just you both has a completely different life plan.

As a conclusion, being honest and open with yourself about your dating goals is absolutely essential if you’re planning to start a new relationship. Save your time and your prospective partner time by asking yourself this question before you decide to start a new relationship. Or maybe you can read my other article on how to start dating.

Leave your comment below if you want to added your idea to this list. We love to hear your feedback also!

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5 Tips Finding The Right Person After Being Single

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Ending a relationship with someone you love is the most terrifying moment toward couples. The transition of breaking up is worst, it’s like you are already finding the right person yesterday but today you stop talking to them. You stop reminisce all the good memory and bury it as it never happened.

Break up is hard enough, moving on make you utterly devastated. It is not easy to forget the past and move forward. The longer your relationship, the more intense your memory with them and it torturing you. When you have moved on, you start to look for someone to replace it.

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A happy and long-lasting relationship is a dream most of the people. Break up left up scars but it rarely stopping you to find a better person. Every failed relationship is an opportunity to find someone who is more suitable. Here are some tips finding the right person for a better relationship.

1. Improve yourself

Get out from your comfort zone and try to do something new that will give benefit to you. For example, you can try joining charity work, entrepreneur, and bakery. From there, you will encounter a lot of people with a different background. Only then you will realize that there are a variety of people who are a lot better than your ex. And try to make some friend. It kills two birds with one stone.

2. Find someone who is opposed to him

There must be a reason why you were having a hard time with your ex. Maybe he or she has an awful behavior that you cannot tolerate at all or they didn’t appreciate you? Because those reasons unintentionally could be the main factor for you to break up. So try to avoid it by finding someone who is opposed to him.

3. Get along with your future partner’s friends

Mark Twain once said that “Love seems the swiftest, but it is the slowest of all growths. No man or woman really knows what perfect love is until they have been married a quarter of a century.” The point is there but it takes a lot of times. So, the other way you can do is try to get along with their friends. The closest the better as you can dig as much as you can about them because they might keep their true colors from you in the beginning.

4. Identify good values

Find and hold on the good value in them. It is like a secret potion that prevents separation. How does it work? By holding on good values in your partner, you will think numerous time before asking for a breakup. Because you are afraid that no one can replace your partner. In other words, you will more appreciate them without you realize it.

5. Take some time before going to a serious relationship

Do not rush in your relationship. Ask some advice from experts like your parents as well as married siblings. Their experiences may give you some tips that you can apply to meet or choose someone better.

Perfect one does not exist but finds someone who can embrace your imperfection. It is a slow and tiring process yet worthwhile.

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How To Start Dating – 5 Proven Method For Success

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Where in your 20’s, you may not worry too much about dating. But when you’re already 30’s or above, this topic will start to hit your head. At one point, you’ll desperately look for a partner so you could settle down, build up your family and have kids.

Dating is a great way to meet your potential future partner. You also can have a good time meeting new people. But, to start dating again is a daunting task. Life is not a fairy tale, you can ‘t just waiting for the shiny armor prince to pick you up and become your perfect partner.

Reality doesn’t work that way, if you want a successful relationship, you may need to learn how to start dating. So you can figure out what you really want in your future relationship. Finding your significant other on this day can be quite challenging, but it’s not impossible.

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In fact, dating does not have to be stressful, it’s supposed to be fun and adventurous. In order to meet your significant other, a few preparations must be made. Here I will share 5 proven method for successfully dating.

Rule No.1 – Take care of yourself.

Learn to take care of yourself before you looking for other people. Build up your self-confidence, such as taking care of your body, diet, go to the gym for exercise, and more. Looking presentable can definitely boost your self-confidence. It also shows that you’re ready to meet your future partner and capable of having a serious relationship.

I’m not trying to tell you that this is for your partner sake. It’s actually for your own goods, you need to love yourself before you can healthily love another. If you already reach this stage, then move on to the next step. But if you’re not, maybe you need to spend more time on yourself first.

Remember, you’re not trying to force someone to like you, or trying to become another person according to their standard. What you really want is upgrade yourself to become a better version of ‘you’.

Rule No.2 – Make your own list

It’s all about you and it starts with you. So don’t miss this step. You must have a clear view of your own choice, you can’t just start dating a random guy that want to have you.

Make a list of a general idea of what you like from your future partner, no need to list on every detail. Because the more detail your list, it’s will become harder to find your significant other. So just make it simple and clear.

As an example, write something about how you like them to treat you? What did you like them to do? What did they do for a living? What type of relationship that you’re looking for? Physical appearance? Personality? Income, education, and interest? Anything that you can think of, just write it.

But don’t make a list with negative statements. As an example, I don’t like a man who’s blah blah blah. It’s been proven that negative statements produce negative results. It’s called the law of attraction, if you focus more on the negative list, you may get someone who’s in your negative list.

Rule No.3 – Be more open.

Be more open to your potential match. Have you ever realized that when you start taking interest in a specific car, you’ll always see that car on the road? Why? Because your mind already set that this kind of car is important, so your eyes will capture it and send that picture to your brain.

Same things happen to your potential partner. Don’t be too strict about what you’re looking for, you’ll run the risk of letting great people go. You’re already making the list, so be playful with your list. Never let your pickiness get in the way of finding someone truly amazing.

Next, be open with your life. Did you have the same routine and you stick to it like every day? Well, if yes, you need to start to update your routine. You need to make room for another person. Hanging out with your friends, explore your city by yourself, or go travel.

You never know your opportunity to meet your potential dates out there.

Rule No. 4 – Get out from your dating comfort zone

I think people is always talk about this, get out from your comfort zone. The same routine will not produce a different result. So if you want to achieve a different result or a better result, you need to get your ass up and start doing something different.

Do something that you never have done before, you might want to put yourself out there, it could be an online dating site, matchmakers, single events and etc. I know it’s hard, but if you really want it, there’s always a way to make it happen.

If you’re a type of people that love to stay home, maybe you need to put more effort into meeting new people. Start saying yes more will give you new opportunities, if your friends invite you to a party with people you don’t know, say yes.

Resist your habit of saying no. Be confidence, talk to as many people as possible. Even if you don’t meet a man, you can expand your experiences, and that will make you an attractive woman.

Rule No. 5 – Change your mindset

If you’ve been hurt before, you may want to protect yourself from future pain. You may be cautious and afraid to fall in love again. Or you actually might not realize that your mindset already been blocked.

You’ll always think that when you start dating, you will date the same narcissistic asshole, or maybe you did believe that love doesn’t exist. Your minds will tell you all this kind of thing to protect you from future pain.

No pain no gain, you always see this type of poster in gym right? It’s actually the same concept about our life. In order to find the long lasting love that you’ve been dreamed of, pain is the part of it. That pain literally teaches you how to become a stronger person, and train you to be prepared for bigger challenges in your life.

So you need to believe in love again, be optimistic about love. Don’t base your opinion about love on the guy who broke your heart, you’re not being fair to yourself. You might be grateful because now you’ve freed yourself and are completely open to finding your real true love.

Conclusion

If you want a successful relationship, you need to learn how to start dating, what to text a guy you like and don’t rush things. Take your time to meet a new prospective partner. Slowly getting to know them will give you a clear view of whether you should have started dating them or not.

The most important part is to be yourself and enjoy the process. Being fake is never an option, but upgrade yourself is a must. If you have any other tips that work for you, please leave your comments below.

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5 Things You Need to Know If You Date A Younger Man

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Have you ever face a problem, that your junior fall in love with you? If yes, congratulation! At a certain age, women choices have been limited due to some reason. It could because of age, marital status and more. So if you added a younger man as a consideration, you have increased the opportunity for your love and romance.

How to date a younger man?

Thanks for the society nowadays, women can expend their freedom of choice. You didn’t need to be rich and beautiful to date a younger man. What’s more important is how open for you to accept this relationship. Ask yourselves this question, are you willing to accept him as a partner?

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If yes, read our five tips on how to date a younger man.

1- Do not treat him like a child

It’s the most common mistake that women make when dating a younger man, she treats him like a child. The truth is, if he old enough to date you, then he is not a child. So the first step is, treat him like an adult.

It’s mean that you need to respect him as a partner, listen to his opinion, and give him space to make a decision. Do not interfere with all his decision just because he’s younger than you. I bet you didn’t want to make him feel like he’s going out with his mother.

2- Expect the unexpected

Usually, younger men came from a different generation, so there must be a different way of thinking. They grew up with dissimilarity family environment and society, maybe his mother is a working woman. So he admires and respects powerful women.

Younger generation sees women as equals. Maybe it’s because women nowadays can do almost everything what man can do. She goes to work, build up a career, do business, play sports and more. Whereas the older guys have been thought to see women as accessories to their lives, as an example staying at home, take care of their children and do housework.

That’s why from my own personal observation, I’ve seen a lot of younger dad has been very helpful to their wives. They shared the responsibility to do the housework, take care of the children and even cooked.

But don’t be surprised if your younger man has an unexpected level of self-awareness. He may have an emotional capacity that you didn’t expect. Always be prepared when you decided to have a relationship with a younger man. Honesty in communication will be very helpful to overcome this situation.

Read my other post on how to communicate effectively in a relationship.

3- Try to guide him

Younger men sometimes lack experience. Maybe you’ve already at top of your career, financially stable and have a few assets. While he still finding his life path, doesn’t have much life experience, still looking for career development and not financially stable.

So it’s could be a little bit challenging for you to date that kind of men. You need to give him some time and space for him to develop their future. Try to guide him and share some good advice for him to move forward. You can be his lover, his aunt, his mentor, and his teacher.

4- He’s probably had more sex than you

Don’t be afraid of this topic. It’s true that men tend to sexually peak at a young age, but the good news is women sexually peak at their’s 30s-40s. At an older age, you will have more confidence and maybe a lot of experience than him!

Who’s here insisted to have sex with the light on at their young age? It shows that you don’t have enough confidence with your body (you that better than anyone else).

For me myself, I think women are sexy and attractive wasn’t because of their curve and slim body. She was sexy because she’s confidence with her body and a bit naughty. If you had fewer experiences regarding this topic, I recommend you to check my other post on how to spice things up in bed and how to talk dirty to your man.

5- Ignore what other people might be saying

People around you might start gossip a lot about you. Or maybe some of them will come to you or him to convince to stop this relationship. You need to be ready for that. If you believe that your relationship is your true love, just go for it.

You can try to convince your family members to accept this relationship. Most of them will try to understand your situation and welcome your new partner.

While there can be many obstacles to date a younger man, but they’re also a lot of benefit to dating younger. Just spend more time to take way better care of yourselves. It will be great experience for you. Good luck!

How To Know A Guy Loves You Deeply – Ladies Alert

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Have you ever wondered how to tell if someone is deeply in love with you? Quite sure it’s yes right? Sometimes a person in front of you may be in love with you, but you didn’t realize it. Or maybe, you also love that person, you just not sure if he shares the same feeling or not.

It’s not an easy task to tell if someone is in love with you or not. However, some relationship experts do believe that there a way to tell if someone has a stronger feeling for you. With a little bit of detective work, you will know if that person secretly loves you (let’s hope so).

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How To Tell If He’s In Love With You or Not?

Maybe he hasn’t said “I love you” yet, or he already said that magic word but you still not sure whether he really serious about that or just playing around. Whatever the reason, there are a few ways to know if he truly loves you or not.

Basically, there are a few ways that can give you hints on whether he is attracted to you or not. It could be signs of strong physical attraction or from a simple gesture that will catch your attention.

All you need to do is pay attention to what he does, what he says, and how he acts in front of you. Here I share a few ways how to tell if someone is deeply in love with you.

1- He treats you differently

Everyone has their own busy lives, it could be because of school, work, and any other commitments. So one person will not easily spend their time for someone who’s not important for them.

But if someone really cares for you, whatever the reason, he will try to make his time available for you. If he doesn’t have time, or he can’t make it to meet you or something, he will make sure to let you know.

Read: Dating Tips for shy Women

When he starts make time for you (treat you as a priority), means that he really love you. Because when a man loves you, you become one of the most important people in his life. I will not say you are the only one most important person in his life if he still has other family members, especially his mom and dad.

2- He looks at you…. a lot

When someone loves you, he will start to stare at you directly through your eyes for a longer period of time. Or it could be that he loves to look at you secretly when you look back at his eyes, he will shyly move his eyes over.

According to Zick Rubin, a Harvard psychologist, he found that people who’ve has a stronger love connection tend to hold eye contact for a longer period of time than those who are a weaker love connection.

He also said, normally two people in conversation give each other eyes contact is around 30-60%, but if those two people are in love, their eyes contact will be around 75% during the conversation. They are also slower to break away their look from each other when interrupted.

3- He remembered the little things

He remembered extra little things, which is not even you remembered. Why? Because when he loves you, he pays more attention to the little thing (but please don’t blame your boyfriend if he did not remember anything after you read this ^-^).

When you are in the dating phase, someone who loves you will remember your birthday, your favorite food, your first date and more. Don’t be shocked if he even remembered the first time you talked to each other.

4- He shows respect for your views.

If you love someone, you need to respect that person. There will always a difference between you and your lover, it could be a difference in food that you like, a difference of mindset and a difference of opinion.

The truth is, it does not matter if he was the opposite typed from you. Because the most important things are how open can he accept your perspective as valid? Even if he disagrees with your opinion, he will let you express your voice out and listen to it carefully.

5- He introduces you to the important people in their lives

The more people he introduces to you, the more likely he like to be closer to you emotionally. As an example, he starts to introduce you to his best friend and family members.

He also wants to meet your family and your friends. He will make an effort to get to know them and made a good impression, he wants them to like him also.

Why? Because he wants to immerse you in his life and vice versa. He wants all his best friend and family members to love you the way he does.

Text Messages That Can Make Him Love You

The key to making a man fall in love with you if to tackle his attention. When you truly capture his attention, he can’t stop thinking about you. His mind is practically glued to you. It’s become your pure charms.

Even if you’re apart from each other, he will constantly be thinking about where you are, what are you doing, and what are you thinking.

Sound familiar? I believe you also experienced something similar when you’re in love with a man.

Let’s make one example, when you’re in a room with him, with a few more people around. Your brain constantly tracking where he is, and who he is talking to. Maybe you do not even realize, but your eyes automatically searching for him. Right?

It shows that he’s basically got your attention!

The more you think about someone, the more attention you’ll pay to them.

So, if you’re hoping that man thinking the same about you, obviously, you also need to get his attention. Once you had that, you will have complete control over him in a way you never thought possible.

Psychological Trigger That Can Grab Man’s Attention

Things like cliffhangers, curiosity and incomplete information are tools that can make any men crave to know more.

It’s the same concept used by Hollywood screenwriter, they draw an audience into their movies and force them to pay attention for hours at a time. They also use movie trailer to ignites audience curiosity.

These psychological triggers are called attention hooks. Which can tap directly into the focus system of a human brain’s.

Basically, you can use this attention hooks to capture your man’s attention with a simple text message. And force him to pay his full attention to you. Check my other guide on what to text a guy you like.

As a result, it creates a desperate feeling of love, infatuation, and obsession over you. He will fantasize about you all day long. And he’ll find his own reason to see you, kiss you, hold you like he’s never been before.

It does not matter whether you want to start a new relationship, make a current relationship interesting, or even get your ex back to have another chance with you.

But if you had no idea or not sure how to use this attention hook with a text message. You can follow Amy North advice. She teaches women to create and use text messages for the past few years, and create a complete guide for women on texting men.

It’s included hundreds of Attention Hooks text message example that can be used instantly to hold his attention for you. Here the link