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Ever heard that being in a relationship helps to gain weight? Ice cream dates, romantic dinners, and late nights pizza become part of your regular routine, once you get in a relationship. So, it’s not something to be shocked that weight gain is sure to happen.

However, now science has the proof that everyone has to admit to that fact. If we all aware to this kinda issues, there is a number of articles was published that relationship is the reason you are getting fatter.

A new study conducted in Australia, where researchers studied 10 years-worth of data from over thousands of people and found that happy couples weighed an average of 13 pounds more than single. Besides, their records had an average weight gain of 4 pounds per year. Isn’t it surprising?

Where does it begin actually? Trying new foods together on meet-ups becomes a frequent activity. According to human psychology, when you are in a relationship with someone for a while, you don’t really have an incentive to go to the gym.

Next, studies also found that people in relationships have healthier habits overall. They smoke less, eat less fast food and consume more fruits and vegetables compared to singles. Anyhow, most couples being overweight and are more likely to be overweight.

Have you ever read or heard that stress may also cause weight gain? But, what’s to stress about when you’re in a happy relationship? Good, stress, known as eustress, actually results in your relationship in weight gain. Even you’re happy, stress feelings can make you turn to the fridge in almost half a day. Most common ways people handle with stress is, eat.

Isn’t a healthy body image what we all imagine to have? But when you enjoy living a judgment-free life, you forget your goals. So, you stop worrying over how your body looks like and you realize that you’re fine just the way you are for your partner. This is the common excuse for the possible relationship weight gain.

Your relationship is going good and you don’t care about anything else? Remember, don’t eat mirror image meals because a man will burn more calories than a woman. Love has the ability to make you feel special, no matter how much weight you gain, especially when your partner doesn’t care about your body changes.

So, does this mean if you’re in a relationship, you should forget your health goals? Absolutely not. In point of the fact, if you and your partner support each other’s healthy habits, relationships can actually help you maintain your health goals.

In other words, having someone to support you can actually make you more likely to hit your goals. It may be challenging, but it will likely increase not only the longevity of your relationship but your life.

Hero is define as someone that we are admired for bravely doing something or achieve something great. Just like women go crazy over Marvel heroes who are daring enough to save the world in spite of their nice figure and face. Truth to be told, heroes that go around save the world and hardly injured only exist in your favorite movies.

Yeah, it is fascinating enough to watch those cool heroes spring into action just to save the world and protect their women. Sometime you could overwhelm with jealousy and start to build hope for the hero to actually presence so that he can be yours.

In reality, you literally can have your own hero by triggering a hero instinct in your men. Man wants to be heroes in women’s eyes, as he like to feel needed. Hero instinct is known within the Native American. It’s built into their culture as warriorism.

As a warrior, they protect their tribes from enemies and fed their tribes by hunting. Psychologically, it’s about satisfaction, a men desire to feel important. They want to show how useful, strong, and effective he is among his peers.

If you relate this behavior with our modern society nowadays, where wealth and other great accomplishment are gained to show that he is able to shoulder up responsibilities. It’s becomes preferable and attractive for a man to have this quality.

The same theory was used for relationship purpose. It’s has been theorized that women should appeal to man’s hero instinct in order to keep peace and respect in relationship. By doing this. you could be your man deepest passion and priority in his life. His heart will be yours and he’ll do anything just to make you happy.

How To Get Your Man’s Attention.

Hero instinct is a biological drive, just like thirst, hunger and sex. It’s a men desire to feel important and strong between his own circle. It’s inspire them to become better and push forward to maintain the status or standard that was created by themselves.

Man’s adores those who admire his courage and effort.

Basically, men fall for women because of ‘how those women make them feel‘.

When a man feel like a hero in a woman’s eyes, he will give his heart and his undying loyalty to her.

Most of women think they can earn a man appreciation by doing a lot of things for him. But it’s works backward. The more you appreciate him, the more he will appreciates you. When he appreciate you, he will give more attention to you.

It’s triggers his ‘hero instinct’.

This is a few example ways on how to trigger your man hero instinct.

1# Ask for his help

Don’t think that you can do all things by yourself. Independent women are great but men feel like a dumb guy around her. Most probably she will feel dissatisfied with men’s help because she can do better. Thus, make men feel useless and always doing something wrong.

What you can do is to always ask for his help no matter how trivial the things is. It’s doesn’t make you needy, but it’s make you a woman with space for a man.

Ask him to open a tight jar for you. Ask a piece of advice from him whenever you want to make a decision will work too. Ask him to changes your car’s tire because you think he is more expert and knowledgeable. And do not forget to say thank you with a big smile of appreciation.

2# Thanks him for every single thing he does

Remember that I’m saying the more you appreciate him, the more he will appreciates you back. The easiest way to show your appreciation is through the word “thank you”.

This simple phrase is very powerful than you could ever realized. Thanks him for every little thing that he does to you.

Did he help you with the chores?

Thank him.

Did he drive you to work?

Thank him.

Did he cook you a meal?

Thank him.

He’s the real hero to you everyday, even though you may not see it. Maybe he dropped everything just to help you. Maybe he’s the only one who’s still believe in you when nobody else won’t. Maybe his advice give you courage to make a difficult decision.

We tend to take things for granted, that’s why sometime we didn’t see the positive value in our partner.

3# Respect is earn not given

Respect come along with admiration and honor which shown for someone who you think they have a good qualities and important. And your man is searching for that.

He work hard to earn your respect. He want to prove himself that he’s able to that. Don’t take away his purpose. Instead give him space and opportunity to show his hero instinct. You main role is to support him.

It’s rare to see a women who’s can satisfy this emotional need in men. And if you do, you can captivate his heart so that he’ll spend his entire life with you.

Unlock Your Man Attention

The key to unlock your man attention is NOT in everything you do for him. But it’s about how you RESPOND to everything he does for you.

When you done everything for him, look after him, and make time for him. In the process, you’re actually taking something away from him. You’re taking away his purpose.

He wants to be your hero, not the other way around.

If his hero instinct is not being met, his attention will wander around until he finds a woman who can give it to him. Maybe only one from a thousand women who’s know to do this instinctively. And they usually rise to unbelievable levels of influence and fame.

Trust me, when you know the secret of man’s hero instinct, you will be shocked with the result from the man you love. And if you’re interested to learn more about the secret of man’s hero instinct, I recommend you check out this video.

Any other suggestion please leave your comment below. We love to hear your feedback! 🙂

Flirty Text Message That Every Men Love

If you’re struggling on what to say to your man to bring the relationship closer together, you may need to check my other post: What to text a guy you like.

It’s may help you to get a better idea on how to text your guy’s. I also share a lot more information on what you should and what you shouldn’t when you’re texting with him.

Solely love will ensure you a passionate relationship but it does not assure you a healthy and long term relationship. Besides, to love each other dearly, you need to have a strong basic that will become a baseline in your relationship, which is one of them is respect.

Respect come along with admiration and honour which shown for someone who you think they have good qualities as well as important. It is earned and not given. How crucial respects in your relationship?

Absolutely important, even love should not be the reason to tolerate disrespect. Girls need to know what’s their partner desire in relationships. Here are some tips on how to respect your partner.

• Accept who they are

You need accept the fact that you are living with a ‘stranger’. It means that your partner coming from a different background, family, education or culture. So they have their own style, behavior and preference that might be totally different from yours.

Instead of arguing over a toothpaste that needs to be squeezed from the bottom or middle, you need to be mentally prepared for the differences between you and your partner and discuss it to achieve an agreement from both parties.

• Be considerate and tolerate

Lower your ego and find a solution towards every problem in your relationship. It doesn’t matter who is right or wrong or who’s always right or wrong, the most important thing is that you and your partner were happy with the solution.

If you love your ego and always want to win in an argument, your partner may be exhausted from it. Consider your partner feeling, idea or decision, do not let your desire dominate everything.

• Don’t compare

The comparison can lead to the bitterness of relationship and loss of respect towards your partner. For instance, if you a woman with a nice job and financially stable, you tend to think that you are more powerful, brilliant and capable compare to your partner.

As a result, you might feel that you didn’t respect him because you think you’re better than him. And you might think that you can make a better decision. The fact is, no matter how great you are, it’s better to ask your partner opinions.

• Do not make any decision by yourself

No matter a big or small decision you’re going to make, if it involves your partner, do ask them. Relationship needs teamwork. This is because you might miss something about your loved one.

As an example, you want to buy a cat but your partner allergic toward it, or you prefer a cup of coffee for breakfast but your partner like a heavy meals due to many workload. These petty things if accumulate might end up to quarrel.

• Be careful with your words and irritate tones

There is one quote state that “Harsh words can hurt a person more than physical pain”. Although it’s just a word, it may remain scar towards someone more than you think. Therefore, be careful of what you’re going to say despite how angry you are.

Hurtful words may be forgiven but not forgotten. Control your tones and use gentle words to express your dissatisfaction, it shows that you still respect them. It is also easier for them to accept what you are saying. Just taste your own words first before you spit them out.

Good communication skill play an important role in this situation. If you have a bad experience with your communication and irritate tones, you may need to learn on how to improve your communication skill in relationship.

• Give your full attention

People like to have attention as they feel needed and important. Whenever your partner tells you about how bad their day, try to give attention and be a good listener. Always try to respond towards their request, desire, as well as their need in a timely fashion.

It’s not an easy task to always keep your man happy in a relationship. Many times we feel like our partner mind is full of mystery. Sometimes we just don’t know what they’re thinking and feel affected by their action.

How to keep your man happy in a relationship?

Luckily, if your partner is a guy, then keep him happy is a lot simpler than you might think. You just need to pay close attention to his needs and know when to give him space. For most of part, men have a few essential needs in a relationship, if you know how to fill that need, it easy for you to keep him happy.

What most important is, are you feeling happy while you’re pleasing your man? If yes, you can follow the tips below. Because, if you’ve got a good man to love, he deserves to be happy being in a relationship with you.

1- Make ‘him’ happy sexually

Sex is always number #1 in their mind (for most of the guys), trust me! Out of many ways to keep your man happy, this one can easily give you the most mileage. In fact, most of them will be perfectly happy if you just do this and ignore the rest! ;P

You can get an extra point if you find a way to make your sex life more interesting, adventure and bold. Don’t afraid to try something new and add variety. As an example, you can try new sexual positions, sexting or having a dirty talk with him. There’s a lot of things that you can try together as long as you feel comfortable doing it.

Take note, not everything you try will feel great. But be open with the process. Try switching around until you get your favorite position or something that can makes it more exciting, .

Another idea that you can try is hook up in a new places. Moving around your home or apartment by exploring every nook and cranny with your bodies also was a good idea. Other than that, it could be outside of your home, whether you check in into hotel or find a deserted and romantic location to have fun with your man.

One of the favorite things that I personally like is my wife being bold. Let your man know what you want and when you like it, this definitely can make them feel excited.

While he was working, try to send a sexy text message saying that you’re waiting for him to coming back home with sexy lingerie, and maybe snap some pictures. He will rush back home!

The most important part is, your man want you to be into it. He want you naturally want it as badly as him. Show enthusiasm overly and he will more than happy to serve you!

2- Make ‘him’ happy emotionally

Just like women, men also can be a moody creatures (some of them may have a period mood, seriously). If you want to make your man happy emotionally you need pay attention to his needs, get to know to his moods, and take action based on it.

The more time you spend with your partner, the better you’ll get to know about his mood and how to react with the situation. Learn how to read his face, it will show you when he’s upset and wants to be comforted and be open with you.

Or if he’s feeling upset, annoy after getting back from work, just take it easy with him. It’s not the right time to have a “serious talk” with your man, you can wait until he’s in a good mood to continue with your discussion. Because it’s not a wise decision to bring up a serious subject when he’s stressed, you will not get a result that you wanted.

Instead, if you have something important to discuss, pick a reasonable time and place where both of you can focus on the conversation. Keep your voice calm during the conversation, even if you disagree with his point of view.

Remember to have fun with your partner. Plan something that you can laugh together, maybe you can go watch a goofy movie, hanging out at mall, or taking an impromptu trip to small theme park. Try to have an amazing time with your man without trying so hard.

3- Know when to leave him alone

Don’t be too clingy, learn how to be there for him when he need you and how to back off when he need some space. Being clingy mean that you want to hang out with him 24/7, checking in every minute to ask him where he’s going, what he doing, or who’s he talk to.

It’s true spending time together as a couple is important, but you can’t always stay together. You need to spend some time apart. That’s why we always talk about spend quality time together, it’s about quality, not quantity.

Let’s him take sometimes off to hang out with their buddies, watching their favorite football game, or spend time with their hobbies. Respect that, try not to be offended by their “me time” request.

You also can being proactive about this by offering them their space, it could be even better because he will feel less guilty to asking for it. This is the good way to keep him happy in a genuine way. Sometime they will be happy by just being alone, and that’s totally fine.

4- Appreciate him and what he does

Appreciate him the way he is, appreciate what he does to you, your family and your future. If your partner work outside from home, let him know that you’re appreciate what he does.

Because even if he does love his job, there’s always a day when he think about quitting his job, yelling at his boss or take a few day off. But he doesn’t do it, why? Because maybe part of the reason he didn’t do that was because of you.

Maybe he working extra hour just to make sure you and your kid get enough food and have a comfort place to stay. He even settle all the utilities bills. What you should do as partner, at least you need to recognize their effort.

If your partner working from home with kids, he’s also sacrificing for your family. As much as he love being at home with the kids, he also needs his own “me time”, he want to spend time to do anything that he wanted. But he didn’t do it, it all because of his family.

We all know, it’s not easy. Tell him that you know how hard it can be to do that. Tell him that you appreciate everything he does and you see his commitment. Remember, when you’re in a relationship, never argue over money. It does not matter whether it’s your money or his money, it about acknowledging something that people usually takes for granted.

5- Support him

Men do not open up as easily as women do. So don’t expect a deep pillow talk conversation with your man, even though he’s going through a rough phase in life. Support him, tell him something as simple as he’s doing a good job or prepared his favorite meal after a long day is good enough to make him feel cared for.

Understand your partner personal goals. Even he does not openly state them to you, pay attention to his comment or his action. It maybe reflects his desire about his dream for his life and your family. Give him plenty of support for him to pursue his goals.

Behind every successful man, there is a strong woman.

Support his works by offering positivity and word of encouragement can instantly boost his self-esteem, because he know that someone is proud of him and has his back. You also can show him how supportive you’re by admiring and respecting him in front of his/your friends and family members.

Basically, there’s no magic formula to keep your man happy. At the end of the day, it really depends on both of you. You can try to follow these tips to keep your relationship healthy and make your partner happy. But, if you still have a problem despite of all the effort you put in, it could be a deeper problem lurking underneath.

Whatever the demographics, building a loving and understanding relationship clearly isn’t easy. Love relationships are perhaps the most complicated. They might be the 30s or 75s, it doesn’t matter how long they’ve been together.

There are many ways to maintain a happy relationship. Follow this simple secret for a happy and loving relationship. It’s may also improve relationship satisfaction and increase the chances of long-term success. Here are the 10 surprising secrets to a happy relationship.

1. Honesty is vital

Honesty and trust need truth, not lies. Being honest with both yourself and your partner is important when developing a relationship. Don’t let your mistrust hurts your loved ones. And once trust is lost or broken, it can take a very long time to fix up the relationship.

2. Spend quality time

The way you interact with your partner and spend time together is a good sign of how things will go in the long haul. But as long as you’re communicating, step away from social media, having fun, then you should be on the right track.

For example: watching TV can be quality time if it is used as a chance to connect with one another. Meanwhile, you can talk about what you’re watching and relate it to your goals, life together, and your evolving understanding of the world.

3. Respect

Respect is something everyone deserves and you have to give respect in order to get it. Even when you’re having a fight. And reminding them how much they mean to you will improve your relationship. As well as don’t be afraid to express your feelings of appreciation with your partner.

4. Make surprises

Surprises may add sparkle to your relationships such as doing birthday surprises, dinner dates and etc. The key is to make sure that you simply give the gift or give hint note to express your love, expecting nothing in return.

5. Give compliments

In a relationship, you should feel able to express your feelings without fear of judgment. There’s no reason to be shy about complimenting your partner when you feel like it as long as it comes from the heart.

6. Do not control

Controlling your partner gives negative effects on the relationship. Eliminate the fear of losing your partner and think of how the change would be good for you and how it could bring some positive effects on your relationship. In opposite, let your partner know that you’re doing your best work on for your relationship.

7. Ask for opinions

Uncover your thoughts and feelings to your partner. Being good together does not mean that couples agree on everything.

Yet, most of the couples actually had differed attitudes, belief systems and opinions. At sometime place may hold opposing views and acceptance. A loving couple respects the point of view of one another over their points. For example, always listen to your partner opinion and decide the right one.

8. Share the chores

According to this new study on divide household chores – How you divide household chores can determine how happy you are in your relationship, found that some chores helped couples reduce relationship disagreements.

Decide together on an equal division of chores, helps to improve understandings among couples and enhance your friendship.

9. Acceptance

Acceptance makes each one of us unique can facilitate our ability to accept our partners. Practicing self-compassion can extremely boost our relationships with our romantic partners. After all, solving dissimilarities can be helped highly when partners feel accepted by one another.

10. Priority

Benjamin Franklin said that if you love life, “then do not squander time, for that is the stuff that life is made of.”

Love your partner and encourage him to live a healthy life that includes eating healthy, exercise and well-balanced meals. Besides, make your relationship and your partner as top priorities and everything else as second. Next, to make your love life more exciting, encourage each other to learn new things and explore new worlds.

In conclusion, if you choose to live your life with ethics, that includes saying what you mean and meaning what you say. Laughter is a great way to build your love life. So don’t take things too seriously, and share a laugh whenever you can. Follow these tips and you will not only be able to save your relationship but also be able to enjoy life.