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Lack Of Communication In A Relationship And How To Improve It

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Communication is the act of transferring information from one person to another. It sounds simple, but communication is actually a very complex subject, especially between couples. Lack of communication in a relationship creates distance and bring problems.

Because when partners don’t communicate enough, they can’t express their feeling to solve the problems. Which is can bring negativity and misunderstanding, and eventually lead to conflicts.

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Why do relationships fail due to lack of communication?

Let me give you one situation.

Today is your important day, and you’re expecting your partner to give you a call. But he didn’t remember to call you. At the same time, you didn’t want to call or text him for a reminder because you already upset with him.

Meanwhile, your partner assumes that your silence means that everything is fine.

See? Both of you are on the wrong page. You tend to make an assumption than telling your partner your true feeling. This is not okay because it can lead to misunderstanding. Misunderstanding creates a negative feeling, while negative feeling creates a negative reaction. Lastly, it may end up with a breakup.

Importance of communication in relationships

Communicate effectively in a relationship is the key to positive social interaction. After all, humans are social beings, we relate to each other to nourish our mind and soul. Our mind and soul condition correlated with the relationship. A lack of communication will lead to a negative relationship, which is can deplete our minds and souls energy.

In a nutshell, the quality in any relationship basically comes down with the quality of the communication. Learning to communicate effectively in a relationship can reduce stress and conflicts, at the same time, it makes your relationship healthy, happy and successful.

7 Ways to improve communication in a relationship

The good news is, it’s never too late to improve how you communicate with your partner, even after you’ve been married for 20 years. Here is the list that can give you a better idea on how to communicate with your partner.

1- Learn to be an active listener.

Everyone wants to be heard when they talk, it gives you a feeling of connection to one another. Give your partner a chance to talk or voice out what they want to share with you. Whatever the case may be, hear them out. If not you’ll never know the root of the problem.

One of the listening skill technique is called “active listening”. This listening technique is not only acknowledged what your partner said with a nod of your head. But also understand what is being said.

Understanding means that you actually engaged and interested in what your partner communicating (in a proper way, I will discuss more about this below). Don’t just sit silently for the sake of listening, do involve interruptions for clarification or even disagreements.

Ask a question if you don’t understand. Ask something that clearly related to clarifying what’s your partner topic. Before you want to interrupt, be sure to ask your partner permission. If you disagree with the topic or conversation, wait until they finished talking before you expressed your disagreement.

2- Listen to understand, instead of listening to respond.

Most of us didn’t realize that we are usually listening to respond. You are not really listening when you listen to make a response. Why? Because your mind busies thinking about what you need to respond when your partner finishes talking.

You will be more focus to voice out your argument or tell them a story from your side. Most likely you don’t really care about what your partner saying and he/she also will be on the defensive state.

Otherwise, if you do listen to understand what your partner is saying, you will prioritize to hearing what they want to say. This kind of listening that you need, to communicate effectively in your relationship.

3- Ask a question and don’t assume the answer.

When you communicate with your partner, try not to labeling or interpreting them. If you really not sure about something, ask them. Don’t afraid to ask any question, each question can give you better information and clarify what they are telling you.

Give them a chance to talk or explain the situation clearly. An argument usually comes from hidden emotions. Control your emotion and express them in a non-judgmental way.

4- Don’t accuse your partner

If you having any issue with your partner, be conscious and don’t start to blame your partner. Blaming your partner means that you start attacking him/her. Believe me, they will pick up on that and start being defensive, and nothing can be gain if this happens.

5- Use the word “I” rather than “YOU”

Have you ever realize that it’s easy to using “you” when you talk with your partner especially in an argument. As an example, during the argument you will start with:

“You make me do this, do that…”

“You never help me in housework..”

“You didn’t ….”

Instead, you can try to start the conversation with the word “I”, which is to describe your feeling. You’re not criticizing your partner behavior, you just simply share your own emotion and reaction. As an example:

“I feel hurt when…”

“I am sad…”

“I feel like we …”

“I was hurt…”

It actually tackles the same issues in a softer way. By doing this, your partner will be less defensive and hopefully, it’s can improve your relationship.

6- Be patient

It’s sound simple, but it’s actually not that simple. Agree?

When you communicate with your partner, try to give your partner some space for them to share their own opinion. Don’t simply interrupt the conversation. Because when they are not ready to listen, your message will not be heard, regardless of how well you communicate.

Let’s go back to point no. 2, understand what they are trying to say first, then have your turn. You both deserved to be heard.

Plot twist, what should you do if your partner love to interrupt your conversation? Be patient, relax, do not try to over talk that person or triumph over about how you never interrupt. Instead, be courteous and allow them to speak, eventually, they will respond likewise.

If they are not, point out to them that they are interrupting the communication process.

7- Focus on the solution, not the problem.

Every problem is like a big door, and a solution is key to open the door. Find that key, not complain about how big the door can be.

“We cannot solve our problem with the same thinking that created them.” – Albert Einstein

Most of the communication issue occurs is simply because of one or both of them more focused on the problem rather than coming up with the idea on how to solve the problem.

As an example, you have a conversation with your partner to express the fact that they like to wasting money on unnecessary things. If you just complain about the problem and attacking them because of their “bad habit”, you’ll get nowhere.

Try to change it for something like this, communicate your idea for a solution with an attempt. Maybe you can start the conversation:

“Well, perhaps we could try to….”

“What if i did this …, and you did….”

“Would you love to try….”

Softly offer a solution rather than directly ask them “You need to stop wasting money!” are way better. You’re showing him/her that you care about them and your relationship.

Conclusion

As a conclusion, good communication can improve your relationship. It can bring your relationship to a whole new level. BUT, it must go both ways! If you’re the only one who put all the effort to be a good communicator, and your partner doesn’t, it’s simply won’t work.

You need to know when to throw the towel. If your partner was not willing to give an effort to solve the problem, how do you suppose to solve the problem?

Share your opinion below, we love to hear your story!

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6 Things You Should Never Sacrifice For A Relationship

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1# Your freedom

Freedom is one of the most important things that every one of us possesses. And that is exactly what you should never sacrifice in a relationship. If your partner takes away your freedom, you will feel like a bird in a golden cage who has it all at first glance, but in fact craves so many things.

So, whatever you do, don’t let anyone take away your freedom because you will never be truly happy in that kind of a relationship.

2# Your spirit

Your spirit is what makes you so special and unique. So why would you ever let anyone take away from you all that makes you so incredibly amazing? Why would you accept to change because of someone else? If he loves you, he will accept you just the way you are and won’t even try to change you.

If you let him change you, he will see that he can and he will go a step further – he will test your boundaries. So, it is up to you to firmly decline all his intentions to mold you into someone who would be perfect for him.

3# Your free time

Your free time is something you should never sacrifice for a relationship. Your loved one will understand that you need to spend some time with your friends, since they were a part of your life before him. He will give you enough space to meet new people and enjoy life.

Only a narcissist will try to wedge a gap between you and your friends so he can abuse you in peace. I am not saying your perfect partner should be someone who will write love paragraphs for you every day, but having a man you can count on to give you the time to be you will be perfectly fine.

4# Your friends

Your friends are the wings that help you achieve your goals and that’s why you should never sacrifice them for anyone. It is okay to spend more time with your loved one, especially if the two of you are in a puppy phase, but don’t forget your friends as well.

They will probably give you enough time to enjoy with your loved one, but don’t neglect them. Make sure that you are there for them as they have been for you. Show them that you will always be present and, no matter what happens, they will try to give you the best advice ever.

5# Your dreams and wishes

We all have some dreams and wishes that we would like to make come true. Well, by having the right partner next to us, one who will support us, every person can make that happen.

But having someone who will want you to sacrifice your biggest dreams is definitely not someone worth being in your life. It is better to cut off a negative partner who holds you back from the things that make you happy than being stuck in a toxic relationship.

6# Your job

Your job is what fulfills you and makes you feel useful. That’s why you should never sacrifice it for your partner, nor let him decide what you will do for a living. You are allowed to do any job that makes you happy and your partner shouldn’t tell you how you should act.

The right person will support you in becoming the best version of yourself; the wrong one will just want to keep you in the house so only he can spend time with you.

That is a huge difference, and if you were able to find the person who really makes you happy, then you are one lucky girl. No matter if he is a sapiophile who is attracted to your intellect or a man who likes the way you look, if he loves you for who you really are, there is no doubt that he is the one.

by Christine Keller

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Helpful Tips – How To End A Relationship With Someone You Love

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Do you still remember how happy you’re when you fall in love with your partner? Your day was bright, a smile on your face and you feel like you’re the happiest person on the earth. Everyone feels that way, we thought that he is the one and your relationship will last forever.

Suddenly, things happen and you’re in the middle of a breakup…

Relationships may end for a lot of reasons. It could be because you’re no longer happy with your partner, or you think he’s not good enough for you, or he never really cares about your relationship future.

Whatever the reasons, ending a relationship never been easy. Especially if you already been together for a few years. You have a lot of sweet memories been build together. Also, a lot of love has been shared. They are your partner and you love them, deep into your heart.

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That why ending a relationship can be emotionally exhausting. No matter how old are you, no matter how much experiences you had, it’s never been easy to handle a breakup.

However, there is the time ending a relationship with someone you love can be the best decision in the long run. With a proper step, it may cause minimal hurt to your partner and yourself. Here are some tips on how to end a relationship with someone you love.

1- Be clear with your decision

Try to not rush into any decision, especially when you are in a bad mood. Take your time and think. There’s a lot of couples out there who ended a relationship then regret with their decision a few weeks later.

Why? Because most of their decision is based on emotion…

Don’t end a relationship if you’re not sure about it. If you have a doubt, ask yourself what is that doubt. In my opinion, before the breakup, write a list of what you no longer want to be, feel or experience in your relationship.

Visualize your list, what will happen to you after a breakup? Are you happy? Is that what you are hoping for? Your list can help you to be clear with your decision.

However, if part of you still feels that you can save the relationship then you should talk with your partner about your concerns, rather than simply put an end to the relationship.

Or if you are not sure about your relationship, this article can give you a hint: how to know when to let someone go.

2- Be prepared

Build up your courage to talk to your partner. To make things easier, think about what you’re going to say in advance. Practice in front of a mirror does help.

Remember the list that you have written before? Elaborate that point to discuss it with your partner. Be detail with your point and work out what is important to you in a relationship.

Be open and discuss directly with your partner. Don’t forget to take your partner opinion into consideration.

Many couples suffer for years and never bring up the problems to their partner. Which is what leads to a breakup. They love to assume things.

As an example:

You end a relationship because you think that is the best decision for your partner. You think that you’re blocking his career path. Or you think that you’re a burden to him. Stop that! It’s not your decision alone, you should discuss it with your partner. He knows better than you about his situation, talk with him.

3- Be respectful and honest

We never know what’s going to happen in the future. You may end up being together with your partner again. Right?

Breaking up is already painful, not for the person who’s being left behind, but also for the person who’s doing the leaving. So don’t insult them or try to hurt them.

Be honest, kind and respectful as you begin to let your partner go.

But be careful with your ‘detail’. People tend to know why they’re being dumped. You can’t simply tell them:

You’re terrible in bed

You don’t have a future

It might seem like an honest answer. But, you’re just being rude and ignorant. Instead of attacking him and blaming him for everything, focus on what you want. Changes your words, use “I” in place of “You”.

I don’t feel like we’re compatible sexually

I think we have a different way viewing our future

This is a nicer way to express your feeling. You also can keep your partner calm during the conversation. Just make sure you don’t play around and give hope to your partner.

4- Pick the right time and place

Choose your time and place that allow both of you to discuss peacefully with privacy. Pick a time by considering your partner situation. Don’t simply ask for breakup when your partner is in the middle of a big test or preparing for an important meeting.

Pick a good time for both of you. Friday night is a good example, it gives you and your soon ex-partner the whole weekend to somewhat recover from a breakup. Because there will be a period of heartbreak, sadness, and pain.

Find a less crowd location that has no special meaning for both of you. Never choose your favorite restaurant for a breakup, you may end up not going to that restaurant anymore.

But if you worried about safety, somewhere public might be the best choice.

5- Say it in person

If you’re not happy with the relationship, don’t drag the whole situation. You’re just wasting time. It is okay if you need time or your partner need time to think about it. But do it after you discuss with your partner.

Openly share what you feel, and discuss about the best solution that you should take for the relationship can be very helpful.

Do it face to face. Don’t rely on text messages if you want to end the relationship. Email, texting or calling might sound easier, but it is not the best option.

A big NO; don’t ever send your friend to deliver the news for you! It’s important to give your partner the respect that he/she deserves. Unless your partner is violence, outburst, and crazy, it may be safer for you to end the relationship at a distance.

6- Look forward

Take your times to recover from heartbreak. Surround yourself with people you love, your best friend or your families member. Fill your time with doing things that you love or do something that can make you happy.

Think about all the other things that you are free to do now. But no need to show it to your ex that you’re happy. If you do it because you want to show something to your ex, you basically still not moving on.

Just do something that you love to do, not do something because of your ex.

This is the time for you to walk out from a relationship without having any ill will with each other. Build up a positive mindset that you’re breakup for a greater good. Don’t regret your decision and move forward.

Conclusion

Letting go of someone you love can be very hard and painful. But it could be the best decision for a better future. It could be the best decision for your own happiness. There is nothing wrong deciding someone isn’t for you.

I hope this article was helpful to you. And I hope you will find a better person. Let us hear your comment and reactions about this article below.

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Why Being In Relationship Makes You Gain Weight, Based On Science

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Ever heard that being in a relationship helps to gain weight? Ice cream dates, romantic dinners, and late nights pizza become part of your regular routine, once you get in a relationship. So, it’s not something to be shocked that weight gain is sure to happen.

However, now science has proved that everyone has to admit to that fact. If we all aware of this kinda issues, there is a number of articles was published that relationship is the reason you are getting fatter.

A new study conducted in Australia, where researchers studied 10 years-worth of data from thousands of people and found that happy couples weighed an average of 13 pounds more than single. Besides, their records had an average weight gain of 4 pounds per year. Isn’t it surprising?

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Where does it begin actually? Trying new foods together on meet-ups becomes a frequent activity. According to human psychology, when you are in a relationship with someone for a while, you don’t really have an incentive to go to the gym.

Next, studies also found that people in relationships have healthier habits overall. They smoke less, eat less fast food and consume more fruits and vegetables compared to singles. Anyhow, most couples being overweight and are more likely to be overweight.

Have you ever read or heard that stress may also cause weight gain? But, what’s to stress about when you’re in a happy relationship? Good, stress, known as eustress, actually results in your relationship in weight gain. Even you’re happy, stress feelings can make you turn to the fridge in almost half a day. Most common ways people handle stress is, eat.

Isn’t a healthy body image what we all imagine to have? But when you enjoy living a judgment-free life, you forget your goals. So, you stop worrying over how your body looks like and you realize that you’re fine just the way you are for your partner. This is the common excuse for the possible relationship weight gain.

Your relationship is going good and you don’t care about anything else? Remember, don’t eat mirror image meals because a man will burn more calories than a woman. Love has the ability to make you feel special, no matter how much weight you gain, especially when your partner doesn’t care about your body changes.

So, does this mean if you’re in a relationship, you should forget your health goals? Absolutely not. In point of the fact, if you and your partner support each other’s healthy habits, relationships can actually help you maintain your health goals.

In other words, having someone to support you can actually make you more likely to hit your goals. It may be challenging, but it will likely increase not only the longevity of your relationship but your life.

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30 Top Relationship Advice For Women – The Ugly Fact

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Everyone has a different preference for their romantic partner, especially if you’re looking for a serious relationship partner. Sometimes it’s beyond physical attributes that you need to consider. As an example, what type of personalities that you’re looking for, what you actually need in a relationship, family background and more.

You may need to bookmark this page for your future references.

So in this article, we will compile all the great references we found on the web and also our own article on a certain topic. Let’s hope this article be a good help and a guideline to your love life.

As per you know, life is not a fairy tale, you can’t expect to kiss a frog to find your shining prince. You need to work for it, you need to move out from your comfort zone, and be prepared. You need to learn how to start dating if you want to be in a successful relationship. If you’re already in the relationship, you need to know how to maintain it and keep the relationship healthy.

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On the other hand, if you’ve been out of the game for a long time, most likely you didn’t know where to start again. You also want to ensure that you didn’t make the same mistake from your previous relationship.

For me, the relationship learning process is never-ending. Because every relationship has a different phase, and every phase comes with a different challenge. That’s why it is important for you to learn about love, relationship, and marriage.

Dating

Dating is a stage of a romantic relationship between two humans who is meet socially with the aim of each assessing the other’s suitability as a prospective partner. As well as a preparation for an intimate relationship or marriage.

In fact, dating is a great way to meet your potential future partner. You can start by meeting new people, spend time together and have fun. In order to meet your potential future partner, a few preparations must be made. Here I share with you dating tips from experiences relationship coach.

1# Don’t Start A New Relationship Until You’ve Done These 4 Things

2# How to Prepare Yourself for the Perfect Relationship

3# 8 Question To Ask Yourself Before You Start Dating

4# How To Start Dating – 5 Proven Method For Success

5# Dating Tips For Shy Women

6# Online Dating Tips For Women – How To Make Guys Interested With You

7# 54 Date Ideas for Your Date Night

8# 50 Dating DO’s and DON’Ts

If you’re preparing yourself to start dating again after breakup or divorce, you may need some tips and a little guidance for the next successful relationship.

9# How To Start Dating Again

10# How To Start Dating Better Quality People

Relationship

Forming a strong and positive relationship really take times, efforts and commitments. It does not happen overnight, and there’s no instant result. Whatever the demographics, building a loving and understanding relationship clearly isn’t easy.

Obviously, it takes more than love for your relationship to work. We know that love is a foundation for any relationship built. But to keep it stronger, you need more than that. Both parties must willing to work on it.

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Basically, the secret to long-lasting relationship is not about a big gesture, being romantic or being rich. It’s about the small action and subtle thoughts that happen daily without being noticed. It’s about consistency, a lifetime commitment to your loved one.

During my work in these industries, I’ve come to observe that a good habit of people that hold a relationship together over time. Good habits create a strong and healthy relationship, while bad habits most likely will destroy it.

Well, people are not born with a good habit in a relationship. But, it’s still can be learned and mastered if you recognized the needs. It takes time and effort to develop them. Here the list of a good reference on how to keep your relationship strong and healthy.

11# The Secret Behind a Happy Relationship – Infographic

12# 5 Simple Habits That Create Better Relationships

13# How To Keep Your Relationship Strong

14# How To Manage Money Issue In Relationship

15# 25 Pieces of Empowering Relationship Advice for Women

16# 23 Must-Know Relationship Advice for Women

17# 11 Best Relationship Advice for Women

18# 8 Things You Do That Could Hurt Your Relationship

19# The Most Common Issues That Will Ruin Your Relationship

20# 5 Secrets To Keep Your Man Happy In A Relationship

Marriage

A healthy and successful marriage is the foundation of a happy family. It also helps you create a positive and pleasant environment in the house.

It’s must be good if all the marriage remains happy and forever young. But that not the case, some of us do struggle with the married life. The journey of married life is full of adventures, ups, and downs, regardless of how long you’ve been married.

Here the chart from bakadesuyo.com. It shows that, on average, marriage gets less happy with the time. You can read the full article at point #21. Let’s dig some info below on how to keep your marriage healthy and happy for a longer time, hopefully forever.

21# 58 Most Romantic Ways to Propose

22# How To Have A Happy Marriage: 7 Powerful Secrets From Research

23# How To Become A Much Better Wife

24# 5 Secrets to a Happier and Stronger Marriage!

25# 7 Secrets To A Happy Marriage From Man’s Perspective

26# Why Do Married Couples Split Up After Childbirth

27# 11 Ways To Make Your Long-Term Marriage Happier, Starting Today

28# 12 Excellent Tricks To Spice Up Your Sex Life

29# Tips to Improve Your Sex Life

30# Tips for Enjoying a Healthy Sex Life as You Get Older

Conclusion

We hope all these references can help you manage your relationship situation. Build up a happy relationship is not easy. It comes with a big responsibility, commitment, and patience. But the rewards are many.

keep your man happy in a relationshipDon’t focus all your energy on the challenges itself, instead enjoys the relationship life as a couple. Remember, there’s still a lot of people out there searching for a partner, so if you already have one, please appreciate your partner.

Make a conscious effort to appreciate a good time in your relationship and your families. Sometimes it’s not easy, but I promise you, it’s worth it.

When a couple no longer can handle their relationship, outside advice and resources can be tremendously beneficial. It could be a reference post like I stated above, marriage therapist, support group, online support or anything that can help you avoid the worst case scenario.

Is there any relationship advice for women that you think I missed? If so, please leave a comment below to let me know what it is. I would love to add it to this list.

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How To Tackle Your Man’s Hero Instinct

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A hero is defined as someone that we are admired for bravely doing something or achieve something great. Just like women go crazy over Marvel heroes who are daring enough to save the world in spite of their nice figure and face. Truth to be told, heroes that go around saving the world and hardly injured only exist in your favorite movies. In reality, you literally can have your own hero by triggering a man’s hero instinct in your men.

Yeah, it is fascinating enough to watch those cool heroes spring into action just to save the world and protect their women. Sometime you could overwhelm with jealousy and start to build hope for the hero to actually presence so that he can be yours.

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Man wants to be heroes in women’s eyes, as he likes to feel needed. Hero instinct is known within the Native American. It’s built into their culture as warriorism.

As a warrior, they protect their tribes from enemies and fed their tribes by hunting. Psychologically, it’s about satisfaction, a men desire to feel important. They want to show how useful, strong, and effective he is among his peers.

If you relate this behavior with our modern society nowadays, where wealth and other great accomplishment are gained to show that he is able to shoulder up responsibilities. It’s become preferable and attractive for a man to have this quality.

The same theory was used for relationship purpose. It’s has been theorized that women should appeal to man’s hero instinct in order to keep peace and respect in a relationship. By doing this. you could be your man deepest passion and priority in his life. His heart will be yours and he’ll do anything just to make you happy.

How To Get Your Man’s Attention.

Hero instinct is a biological drive, just like thirst, hunger, and sex. It’s a man desire to feel important and strong between his own circle. It inspires them to become better and push forward to maintain the status or standard that was created by themselves.

Man’s adores those who admire his courage and effort.

Basically, men fall for women because of ‘how those women make them feel‘.

When a man feels like a hero in a woman’s eyes, he will give his heart and his undying loyalty to her.

Most of the women think they can earn a man appreciation by doing a lot of things for him. But it works backward. The more you appreciate him, the more he will appreciate you. When he appreciates you, he will give more attention to you.

It triggers his ‘hero instinct’.

This is a few example of ways on how to trigger your man’s hero instinct.

1# Ask for his help

Don’t think that you can do all the things by yourself. Independent women are great but men feel like a dumb guy around her. Most probably she will feel dissatisfied with men’s help because she can do better. Thus, make men feel useless and always doing something wrong.

What you can do is to always ask for his help no matter how trivial the things are. It’s doesn’t make you needy, but it makes you a woman with space for a man.

Ask him to open a tight jar for you. Ask a piece of advice from him whenever you want to make a decision will work too. Ask him to changes your car’s tire because you think he is more expert and knowledgeable. And do not forget to say thank you with a big smile of appreciation.

Unlock Your Man’s Hero Instinct

According to James Bauer, a relationship coach for over 12 years. He shared that during his work in these industries, when he coached men, he heard over and over again that they (men) wanted to feel that they were important and special to their woman.

In other words, they wanted to feel like their hero.

It’s something that men’s need in order to feel women’s love.

Men adore those who admire his hard work or see him as Superman, a dependable man in all things.

James also believed that, no matter how in love that man is if the women he’s with doesn’t bring out his hero instinct, he’ll feel like something is missing.

So if you know how to tackle your man’s hero instinct, you can take a positive action to influence your man’s emotion and bringing him closer to you.

Here, you may need to check James Bauer presentation video.

James technique can be very helpful if you’re facing this type of problem:

  • You feel like you’re just a placeholder
  • You think a lot about him, but he only thinks of himself
  • He says he loves you but isn’t in love with you
  • Why won’t he commit to you?
  • Why does he so quiet? What is he really thinking?
  • Why does he start ignoring you?
  • Does he really love you? Or he just wants to be alone?
  • It’s already over, but you want him back.

His guide helps women to understand specific trick and phrase to improve their relationship. He also teaches you how to build attraction and how to understand what your man wants in a relationship.

Here the link for James Bauer presentation video.

2# Thanks him for every single thing he does

Remember that I’m saying the more you appreciate him, the more he will appreciate you back. The easiest way to show your appreciation is through the word “thank you”.

This simple phrase is very powerful than you could ever realize. Thanks him for every little thing that he does to you.

Did he help you with the chores?

Thank him.

Did he drive you to work?

Thank him.

Did he cook you a meal?

Thank him.

He’s the real hero to you every day, even though you may not see it. Maybe he dropped everything just to help you. Maybe he’s the only one who still believes in you when nobody else won’t. Maybe his advice gives you the courage to make a difficult decision.

We tend to take things for granted, that’s why sometimes we didn’t see the positive value in our partner.

3# Respect is earned not given

Respect comes along with admiration and honor which showed for someone who you think they have good qualities and important. And your man is searching for that.

He works hard to earn your respect. He wants to prove himself that he’s able to that. Don’t take away his purpose. Instead, give him space and opportunity to show his hero instinct. Your main role is to support him.

It’s rare to see a woman who’s can satisfy this emotional need in men. And if you do, you can captivate his heart so that he’ll spend his entire life with you.

Unlock Your Man Attention

The key to unlocking your man attention is NOT in everything you do for him. But it’s about how you RESPOND to everything he does for you.

When you have done everything for him, look after him, and make time for him. In the process, you’re actually taking something away from him. You’re taking away his purpose.

He wants to be your hero, not the other way around.

If his hero instinct is not being met, his attention will wander around until he finds a woman who can give it to him. Maybe only one from a thousand women who are known to do this instinctively. And they usually rise to unbelievable levels of influence and fame.

Trust me, when you know the secret of man’s hero instinct, you will be shocked with the result from the man you love. And if you’re interested to learn more about the secret of man’s hero instinct, I recommend you check out this video.

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If you’re struggling on what to say to your man to bring the relationship closer together, you may need to check my other post: What to text a guy you like.

It’s may help you to get a better idea on how to text your guy’s. I also share a lot more information on what you should and what you shouldn’t when you’re texting with him.

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How To Manage Money Issue In Relationship

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Money is a familiar source of nasty arguments among many couples. Typically, each couple has arguments about finances on their own pattern. Nevertheless, most of the time, money isn’t the real problem. Yet, having different financial values and behaviors is actually a real problem.

This article will guide with the main necessary steps for couples to look at the problem from a different point of view. Besides, I will explain how to have a more conducive conversation about finances and money issues in a relationship.

Money and Relationships

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Make a plan together and take each other’s feelings into thought.

Don’t let money continue giving you a negative effect on your relationship. Keep your financial values as first and look back to them whenever you make a decision with your priorities. Most important, take each other’s feelings into consideration.

Work on the budget together.

Practice to not be financial nerds and don’t keep the money details all to yourself. When you don’t have a plan, you’re going to be depressed and that takes all the fun. And if you’re the smothered partner, don’t just nod your head all the time.

You have to vote yes or no in the situation of budget meetings in your relationship.  In that case, giving feedback, comments, and encouragement will adjust your budget each month as things change.

Especially if you’re a married couple. The most common financial problem is after the childbirth. You will spend a lot of money on the diapers, baby clothes, breast pump and more. So for the preparations, work on the budget before the baby born.

Discuss with your spouse on how to manage your expense, start to save money earlier, prepare what to buy list for your baby and create a separate account.

Equality, are one of the most important things in a relationship.

“Nevertheless, it’s vital that both make an effort to contribute to the running of the house with peace”, says Dr. Berman. Get to know where each person does his or her fair share of housework, take charge of paying the bills, make a decision among needs and wants of both and make a fair contribution to the running of a home. When opinions differ, sit with that conflict rather than immediately trying to smooth things over.

The ultimate symbol of a financial union for many couples is a joint bank account. For example, it can be used for taking shared responsibility for monthly expenses or establishing joint savings goals.

One of the main advantages of this way is that there’s a smaller chance of confronting financial issues. Because both of you can see the money flow in and out on that account. Somehow, this technique doesn’t mean it’s a practice that works for all couples.

Conclusion

Finally, we can’t deny that manage money issues in a relationship is challenging. But a financial crisis doesn’t mean you should live your life without enjoyments. Communicate respectfully and honestly with your partner.

And if your relationship is healthy, you have every chance of reaching accommodate on each other’s values and beliefs. Manage your differences by starting these steps and make a healthy living life.

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The Key To Strengthen Your Relationship is Respect

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Solely love will ensure you a passionate relationship but it does not assure you a healthy and long term relationship. Besides, to love each other dearly, you need to have a strong basis that will become a baseline in your relationship, which is one of them is respect.

Respect come along with admiration and honor which showed for someone who you think they have good qualities as well as important. It is earned and not given. How crucial respects in your relationship?

Absolutely important, even love should not be the reason to tolerate disrespect. Girls need to know what’s their partner desire in relationships. Here are some tips on how to respect your partner.

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  • Accept who they are

You need to accept the fact that you are living with a ‘stranger’. It means that your partner coming from a different background, family, education or culture. So they have their own style, behavior, and preference that might be totally different from yours.

Instead of arguing over a toothpaste that needs to be squeezed from the bottom or middle, you need to be mentally prepared for the differences between you and your partner and discuss it to achieve an agreement from both parties.

  • Be considerate and tolerate

Lower your ego and find a solution towards every problem in your relationship. It doesn’t matter who is right or wrong or who’s always right or wrong, the most important thing is that you and your partner were happy with the solution.

If you love your ego and always want to win in an argument, your partner may be exhausted from it. Consider your partner feeling, idea or decision, do not let your desire dominate everything.

  • Don’t compare

The comparison can lead to the bitterness of relationship and loss of respect towards your partner. For instance, if you’re a woman with a nice job and financially stable, you tend to think that you are more powerful, brilliant and capable compare to your partner.

As a result, you might feel that you didn’t respect him because you think you’re better than him. And you might think that you can make a better decision. The fact is, no matter how great you are, it’s better to ask your partner opinions.

  • Do not make any decision by yourself

No matter a big or small decision you’re going to make, if it involves your partner, do ask them. A relationship needs teamwork. This is because you might miss something about your loved one.

As an example, you want to buy a cat but your partner allergic to it, or you prefer a cup of coffee for breakfast but your partner like heavy meals due to many workloads. These petty things if accumulating might end up to quarrel.

  • Be careful with your words and irritate tones

There is one quote state that “Harsh words can hurt a person more than physical pain”. Although it’s just a word, it may remain scar towards someone more than you think. Therefore, be careful of what you’re going to say despite how angry you are.

Hurtful words may be forgiven but not forgotten. Control your tones and use gentle words to express your dissatisfaction, it shows that you still respect them. It is also easier for them to accept what you are saying. Just taste your own words first before you spit them out.

Good communication skill plays an important role in this situation. If you have a bad experience with your communication and irritate tones, you may need to learn how to improve your communication skill in a relationship.

  • Give your full attention

People like to have attention as they feel needed and important. Whenever your partner tells you about how bad their day, try to give attention and be a good listener. Always try to respond towards their request, desire, as well as their need in a timely fashion.

The Science Behind a Happy Relationship – Infographic

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Everyone dreams a healthy and happy relationship. But in order to achieve that dream, it requires more than love. A happy relationship is challenging, confusing, but at the same time, it’s rewarding and exhilarating.

After a few years of being together, you must be sure something has changed. Did things stay hot in the bedroom? When is the last time you’re going to date with your partner? Did you rarely talk to your partner nowadays?

Almost every couples face the same problem. There’s no clear answer to this problem. But when it’s come to marriage and relationship satisfaction, sciences do has some interesting things to offer. Thanks to our friends at Happify, they make a beautiful infographic about The science behind a happy relationship.

Here some important point the scientist found out about people in a happy relationship:

  • A happy couple talks more. They spend more than 5 hours per week being together and talking.
  • They show appreciation to each other for something big and small. And they do something nice for their partner
  • They find time for intimacy. The happiest couples have sex at least once a week. According to the research, having sex once a week makes people 44% more likely to have a positive feeling.
  • A happy couple loves experiences new things together. By doing this they feeling more loving and supportive towards one another, and more satisfied with their marriage.
  • A happy marriage is worth an additional $105,000 a year in term of life satisfaction.
  • A happy couple shows enthusiasm and celebrates their partner GOOD news.

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5 Secrets To Keep Your Man Happy In A Relationship

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It’s not an easy task to always keep your man happy in a relationship. Many times we feel like our partner mind is full of mystery. Sometimes we just don’t know what they’re thinking and feel affected by their action.

How to keep your man happy in a relationship?

Luckily, if your partner is a guy, then keep him happy is a lot simpler than you might think. You just need to pay close attention to his needs and know when to give him space. For most of part, men have a few essential needs in a relationship, if you know how to fill that need, it easy for you to keep him happy.

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What most important is, are you feeling happy while you’re pleasing your man? If yes, you can follow the tips below. Because, if you’ve got a good man to love, he deserves to be happy being in a relationship with you.

1- Make ‘him’ happy sexually

Sex is always number #1 in their mind (for most of the guys), trust me! Out of many ways to keep your man happy, this one can easily give you the most mileage. In fact, most of them will be perfectly happy if you just do this and ignore the rest! ;P

You can get an extra point if you find a way to make your sex life more interesting, adventurous and bold. Don’t afraid to try something new and add variety. As an example, you can try new sexual positions, sexting or having a dirty talk with him. There’s a lot of things that you can try together as long as you feel comfortable doing it.

Take note, not everything you try will feel great. But be open with the process. Try switching around until you get your favorite position or something that can make it more exciting.

Another idea that you can try is hooking up in a new place. Moving around your home or apartment by exploring every nook and cranny with your bodies also was a good idea. Other than that, it could be outside of your home, whether you check in into the hotel or find a deserted and romantic location to have fun with your man.

secrets to a happy marriage from man's perspectiveOne of the favorite things that I personally like is my wife being bold. Let your man know what you want and when you like it, this definitely can make them feel excited.

While he was working, try to send a sexy text message saying that you’re waiting for him to coming back home with sexy lingerie, and maybe snap some pictures. He will rush back home!

The most important part is, your man wants you to be into it. He wants you naturally want it as bad as him. Show enthusiasm overly and he will more than happy to serve you!

2- Make ‘him’ happy emotionally

Just like women, men also can be a moody creature (some of them may have a period mood, seriously). If you want to make your man happy emotionally you need to pay attention to his needs, get to know to his moods, and take action based on it.

The more time you spend with your partner, the better you’ll get to know about his mood and how to react with the situation. Learn how to read his face, it will show you when he’s upset and wants to be comforted and be open with you.

Or if he’s feeling upset, annoy after getting back from work, just take it easy with him. It’s not the right time to have a “serious talk” with your man, you can wait until he’s in a good mood to continue with your discussion. Because it’s not a wise decision to bring up a serious subject when he’s stressed, you will not get a result that you wanted.

Instead, if you have something important to discuss, pick a reasonable time and place where both of you can focus on the conversation. Keep your voice calm during the conversation, even if you disagree with his point of view.

Remember to have fun with your partner. Plan something that you can laugh together, maybe you can go watch a goofy movie, hanging out at the mall, or taking an impromptu trip to a small theme park. Try to have an amazing time with your man without trying so hard.

3- Know when to leave him alone

Don’t be too clingy, learn how to be there for him when he needs you and how to back off when he needs some space. Being clingy mean that you want to hang out with him 24/7, checking in every minute to ask him where he’s going, what he doing, or who is he talk to.

It’s true spending time together as a couple is important, but you can’t always stay together. You need to spend some time apart. That’s why we always talk about spending quality time together, it’s about quality, not quantity.

Let’s him take some time off to hang out with their buddies, watching their favorite football game, or spend time with their hobbies. Respect that, try not to be offended by their “me time” request.

You also can be proactive about this by offering them their space, it could be even better because he will feel less guilty to ask for it. This is the good way to keep him happy in a genuine way. Sometime they will be happy by just being alone, and that’s totally fine.

4- Appreciate him and what he does

Appreciate him the way he is, appreciate what he does to you, your family and your future. If your partner works outside from home, let him know that you appreciate what he does.

secrets for a happy and loving relationshipBecause even if he does love his job, there’s always a day when he thinks about quitting his job, yelling at his boss or take a few days off. But he doesn’t do it, why? Because maybe part of the reason he didn’t do that was because of you.

Maybe he working an extra hour just to make sure you and your kid get enough food and have a comfortable place to stay. He even settles all the utility bills. What you should do as a partner, at least you need to recognize their effort.

If your partner working from home with kids, he’s also sacrificing for your family. As much as he loves being at home with the kids, he also needs his own “me time”, he wants to spend his time to do anything that he wanted. But he didn’t do it, it all because of his family.

We all know, it’s not easy. Tell him that you know how hard it can be to do that. Tell him that you appreciate everything he does and you see his commitment. Remember, when you’re in a relationship, never argue over money. It does not matter whether it’s your money or his money, it about acknowledging something that people usually takes for granted.

5- Support him

Men do not open up as easily as women do. So don’t expect a deep pillow talk conversation with your man, even though he’s going through a rough phase in life. Support him, tell him something as simple as he’s doing a good job or prepared his favorite meal after a long day is good enough to make him feel cared for.

Understand your partner personal goals. Even he does not openly state them to you, pay attention to his comment or his action. It maybe reflects his desire for his dream for his life and your family. Give him plenty of support for him to pursue his goals.

Behind every successful man, there is a strong woman.

Support his works by offering positivity and word of encouragement can instantly boost his self-esteem because he knows that someone is proud of him and has his back. You also can show him how supportive you’re by admiring and respecting him in front of his/your friends and family members.

Basically, there’s no magic formula to keep your man happy. At the end of the day, it really depends on both of you. You can try to follow these tips to keep your relationship healthy and make your partner happy. But, if you still have a problem despite all the effort you put in, it could be a deeper problem lurking underneath.