‘Did the cops arrest you earlier? Because it’d have to be illegal to look that great’
‘The best time is the present. Let’s go on a date’
‘Can you give me the direction to your heart?’
Those pick up lines is a piece of cake for some ladies when she catches a dashing guy. But for a shy woman, it can cause a nervous breakdown. This is because they feel too chicken to start a conversation with a man even if they are interested in them.
Moreover, shy women may get totally flustered and tongue-tied if the man talks to her, or babbling when she wants to speak because of anxiety. No worries dear shy women, it is not wrong to be shy. You still can flirt with your crush by using these tips.
1# Choose the best outfits
“A girl should be two things: classy and fabulous”- Coco Chanel. Therefore, try to dress beautifully on your first date or whenever you want to attract a male suitor. Ask for some help from your friend or from expertise for a makeover.
But, choose a style that you’re comfortable to wear, or you will end up pull your short skirt throughout the date. Those clothing, hairstyle or makeup will make you feel good and improve your confidence level.
Besides, you also can wear unique accessories like jewelry or a vintage scarf in order to be a center of attraction. Who knows, those unique accessories may catch a guy eyes to look on you as well as ignite a great conversation.
2# Show off the right signals
Make yourself approachable by altering your body language to show some interest. Avoid crossing your arm or playing with your smartphone as the male will think you’re bored and dissatisfied.
Instead, smile a lot while you’re talking to your friends and hold your head up. Here are some bonus tips. If you want your smile to look way more natural, try to think of something beautiful or any funny moments in your life. Be careful while thinking of those funny moments as I am afraid that you might burst into laughter accidentally.
3# Do some activities on a first date.
If you’re too nervous on the first date, try to do something that involves activity instead of a quiet dinner. This activities such as rock climbing, hiking, cook meal together or skating will help you to communicate with your partner.
It is because those activities need a communication to progress the date. Hence, you will be less worried about what’s the topic you have to choose. Furthermore, it helps to find any similarities or differences between you and your partner.
Watch a movie together is also a great choice. Previous studies showed that watch movies together can lead to a better conversation because you can share your own opinion or argument with your partner. Next, it also aids to represent the “real you” where you can blow a fuse on conflicts or be a cry baby over a sad scene.
4# Say yes!
Shy girls usually tend to avoid taking any risk. Thus, you have a tendency to politely refuse his favor not because you’re uninterested. Please do not avert his intention because you will just put him in an awkward situation. In contrast, just say yes if he wants to treat you a dinner even you are not hungry. Say yes when he asks you to watch movies together on the weekend and so on.
5# The crucial one: Be yourself
All the other ways mentioned above are tips on how to catch his eyes, but the most important part is for you to be comfortable with your own skin. Do not afraid to be yourself as he will notice you immediately for not being genuine.
Tell him you have no ideas about his work field neither his favorite classical music. Admit that you’re not the sharpest knife in the drawer is not a bad thing to do. Who knows maybe your partner find it is interesting to talk to you as you’re not like him. For instance, if your partner is very charm and grace, he might laugh over your nervousness.
Love is most perfect in its perfect imperfection. So, just enjoy your differences with your partner. If you like to do silly things, show them some. If you like nature, share some of those pictures. Just tell them how much you love about yourself.