How To Cherish Your Spouse To Make Them Feel Important

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Love, honor, and cherish are three words that we uttered during a marriage ceremony. But after years of marriage, some of us might even forget how to cherish our spouse. You might love your spouse, but did you really cherish them?

Cherishing your spouse means that you recognize their value and care for that person lovingly. You love them, protect them, adore them, and take care of them. You also respect, honor, and look up to that person.

When you cherish your spouse, you do not take them for granted. You show appreciation for the things they do. Trust me, if you keep doing these, you will have a healthy relationship that is filled with happiness, joy, and most importantly is love.

How To Make Your Spouse Feel Special

At the early stage of dating, when we’re getting to know each other, we often think about our lovers. Our thoughts are fulfilled with the one we love and we always want to please them. We learn how to treat them better, how to make them feel happy, and how to make them feel loved.

Unfortunately, this romantic feeling started to fade away after years of marriage. Most of the reasons are because we get caught up with our daily life routine. We have kids to take care of, we are busy with our careers, our works, and so much more.

When we’re too busy with our daily routine, we tend to forget that our spouse also needs our attention. They might not be showing it, but deep down in their heart, they want to know that you care about them and feel grateful to have them in your life.

The good news is, cherishing your spouse is something you can learn. And it doesn’t really take a lot of effort to make your spouse feel cherished. Even your small action will make their day.

So to give you some good ideas on how to cherish your spouse, here are the tips:

1# Compliment Your Spouse To Make Them Feel Valued

If you want to learn to cherish your spouse, start by changing the ways you treat them and demonstrate your love, care, and affection. One of the signs that your relationship is moving in the right direction is when your spouse acknowledges how you are brightening up their day.

And the easiest way to do that is to give your spouse a compliment. Say something nice to them, something that can make your partner happy. To compliment effectively, focus on how they make you feel, and please do not exaggerate.

2# Give Meaningful Present

A gift is a tangible acknowledgment that your spouse is in your thoughts. Leaving the present with a little note can mean a lot. It doesn’t need to be expensive. You can give her anything as long as it is meaningful and sincere from your heart.

If you are not sure what to give to your partner, pay attention to the conversation. They might give you a hint about something they wanted. As an example, food that they would like to try, or things that they are interested in.

Also, don’t forget to write her some love notes in a place that easily discover. Your spouse will love the fact that you took the time to write those loving words for them.

3# Spend Quality Time Together

Take your spouse on a romantic weekend trip, no kids, just the two of you. You can plan the whole trip and surprise your spouse. Use this opportunity to spend quality time together, try to have some fun, and create wonderful memories that will last forever.

If you have some restrictions on traveling, you can just spend your quality time together at your home. It can be spent anywhere as long as both of you enjoying the time together, laugh together, and feel good around each other.

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Because the most important part of spending quality time together is, both of you can connect in a positive way and create a deeper connection. You can just have a drink together at home or camping in your own yard.

4# Listen To Your Spouse

Be a good listener to your spouse, be interested, and don’t nag. Your spouse needs your ears, not just your heart. When you listen to their problem, pay attention, look into their eyes, show them that you care for them, and are always at their side.

Do not rush to give your own opinion even when you have opposite stances on certain issues. When you’re too focused to share your own thoughts, you will lose focus listening to their story. That’s why it is important to set your opinion aside and hear what your spouse is saying.

Then you can practice empathy skills to try to understand why. You don’t need to change your stand or your opinion. You just need to understand what your spouse is feeling and adjust your response based on their emotional state.

5# Hold Your Partner Up During Hard Times

Everyone wants a comfortable place to fall, and sometimes a shoulder to lean on. It feels comforting to know that your spouse sincerely shows up for you during hard times. Feeling lifted by your spouse can uplift your spirits during stressful moments and strengthens your relationship.

There are going to be times when your spouse is unsatisfied with some part of life, it could be their jobs, finances, family problems, health, and more. When this happens, the best thing you can do is listen and reflect.

We may not be able to solve the actual problems, but we can be the ones who shared their burden. Let them know that you are always there for them. Whatever happens, you will be the one who keeps them safe and feels loved.

6# Touch Your Spouse

Most of us enjoy a gentle touch from our spouses. You can just hold their hand, massage their shoulder, or put your arm around their waist. If you are watching movies together, put your arm over the back and enjoy your time together.

A simple tap on the shoulder, a squeeze on the hand, a kiss on the lips, or a warm tight hug will surely make your spouse feel loved. Sweet and sincere skin-to-skin encounters will not only make you and your spouse feel good but also brings excitement to your relationship.

7# Share Their Responsibilities

Train yourself to keep asking your spouse whether they need your help or not. One marriage counselor said, there would never be a divorce if couples practice this kind of question at the beginning of the day:

“How can I help you today?”

“Did you need anything from me? Please let me know”

Or you can just surprise your spouse by doing some volunteer work around the house. Maybe you can help with household works, prepare breakfast for them, or do anything that can please their mind. Who knows, maybe your small action can make their day.

Conclusion

Cherishing your partner is an essential part of sustaining your love. It makes the difference between a good relationship and a truly great, happily-ever-after, successful marriage.

There are still a lot of ways on how to make your spouse feel cherished. It doesn’t really matter what style or strategy you use to make your spouse feel that they are really important to you as long as you express it genuinely and sincerely.

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