If you ever had a question on how to keep my husband sexually satisfied, then this post is the most suitable for you. We will share with you all the tips and method that is important for you to keep your husband happy at night.
Well, some of you maybe didn’t have a problem in order to keep your husband sexually satisfied. But I know a lot of peoples out there didn’t know how to keep their husband happy in bed.
Let’s face the bitter truth about this. Usually, when you’re making love, no matter what you do (position, oral, etc) he always ends up satisfied, while you are the one who often left unsatisfied.
The ones who often left unsatisfied always try to find ways to keep their husband satisfied. Am I right? And why is that? Because most of you just focus on how to keep your husband satisfied without knowing that he’ll be more satisfied if you’re satisfied!
Men’s brain is hardwired to please women sexually. Every normal guy wants to please their women. So if you want to please your men, you need to enjoy sex as much as men enjoy it. Don’t do it because of your men solely.
Learn to focus on yourself first, at the same time it can be benefits to your husband. I will try to cover all the info as much as I can in this article so you will know how to keep your husband sexually satisfied.
Before we begin, let’s take a few steps back and check if you have this kind of problem.
Why husband not sexually attracted to his wife?
This is quite normal, after a few years of marriage, your look has not become your priorities. You may look grubby and shabby, a “grandma” nightgown has now become a nightmare and a major turned off for your husband.
Having less amount of quality sexual intimacy in marriage is a major problem nowadays. And it usually happens not because of your weight, your age or because of you married the wrong guys. But there must be something else going on that you’re unaware of.
In order to fix the situation, the first thing you need to do is identify the root cause. There can be many reasons that drive your partner further away. Here are a few reasons why this could happen:
1. They trying to hide the truth
It could be because he tries to cover up another issue that he doesn’t want to admit. He may feel inadequate sexually. As an example, having a physical appearance that makes them feel less manly, or has sexual performance issues such as erectile dysfunction.
If your man having problems getting and keeping an erection during intercourse, he may hesitate to initiate. Rather than admit all the embarrassing things, it will be much easier to put the blame on the attractiveness of their partner.
2. Influences of pornography
Did you watch porn together with your partner? It is true that watching porn together can lead to sexual intimacy. But watching too much porn is not good either.
Many wives didn’t aware that their husband spends too much time on this activity. Porn addiction can bring negative effects on the sexual intimacy of your marriage. It is possible that your husband doesn’t find you attractive because of his brains find out the images in porn is more arousing.
According to a study by the American Sociology Association, “Married couples who are watching porn are twice more likely to get divorced in the following years than those who don’t. So ladies, please take note.
3. There’s no attraction from his partner
Sometimes a man does lose attraction in his partner. Worst case, he no longer wants to have sex with her. In a relationship, “attraction” is a complex emotion. It could be a visual pleasure, feeling respect or sexual chemistry.
You need to find out the root of why he no longer attracted to you. It could be because you’re busy with your work or children, and you’re ignoring the facts that he also needs your attention.
4. You have acting more and more like his mother
Men are not sexually attracted to their mothers. Even though you have a killer body like a supermodel, but if you treat him like a child, he will not be attracted to you. It’s the same concept that we’ve previously discussed on a man’s hero instincts.
If you have done everything for him; as an example, you buy his underwear, clean up all his clothes, remind him not to forget his wallet, ask him to sleep early, tell him that he was watching too much TV or playing games, and much more.
All these things might look that you’re being helpful.
Of course, but somewhere along the line, you’re actually taking something away from him. You’re taking away his purpose as a man. Look back at the day when you dating him. Did you act like his mom? I’m sure that you’re not.
Instead, you used to be admiring him, flirting with him, laughing at his jokes, smiling at him and thanking him for a lot of things. That is why he is attracted to you. So maybe he wasn’t the one who changed.
Well, there could be a lot of reasons why man’s not sexually attracted to his wife. Thus you need to understand which of these reasons applies to your situation.
How to turn your husband on and keep him sexually satisfied
After you’ve found out the root of the problem, it’s time to improve the area that you’re lacking and looking for new ways to make your husband feel good and sexually satisfied. Learning how to satisfy your husband sexually is not that hard.
You don’t need to become a pornstar or having a ‘supermodel body kit’ in order to satisfy his need. All you need to do is acquire skill on how to trigger the sexual and romantic interest of your husband. Get to know about his sexual fantasies, and share with him about yours too.
In this article, we’ve compiled all the information you need to answer your question “How to keep my husband sexually satisfied”.
1. Be gorgeous
I’m not telling you to buy expensive clothes or follow the latest trend. Instead, focus on how to show the gorgeous side of you to your husband. Start by something that will make him look twice. Maybe a type of dress that can remind him of why he likes you so much.
As an example, wear a skirt that is a little shorter than usual or a top that shows your curve. You can wear anything that can highlight your good points. See the image below to get the ideas of what I really mean.
Another example of being gorgeous is to take care of your basic hygiene, always brush up your appearance by smelling nice, let your hair done, and also waxed your arms and legs.
Create good habits in maintaining your daily life. Don’t hesitate to spend money on sexy lingerie, saloon or spa, it is important to make you look good as well as to boost your confidence.
Keep in mind that before you attract him sexually, you need to get his attention first. When his eyes are always for you, it will become much easier for you to seduce him.
2. Please his mind
Men’s brains are considered a more powerful sexual organ than their genitalia. It is where the sex drive steams come from and also plays the largest role in sexual pleasure. So if you want to please your man, start with his brain first.
Basically, there are two simplest ways to excite your husband’s mind. Either you found out about his sexual fantasies or dirty talk with him. The best part, you can do both!
Exploring your husband’s sexual fantasies and turn it to reality together with you can give him a huge excitement. But, it could be hard at first because men normally didn’t share their fantasies with their partner. They may feel embarrassed or reluctant to talk about it with you.
So, in order to get him more open up about his dirty little secret, you can tell him some of yours first. Being first to share is a great way to convince him. Let him know that you’re interested to try lots of different things with him.
Slowly he will get excited and start to share his own sexual fantasies!
Dirty talk is the practice of using explicit words to heighten sexual excitement before or during physical sexual activity. Personally, I would say it’s a part of foreplay before foreplay. You could use dirty talk by whispered to his ears, spoken over the phone or by sending text messages.
It means that you can practically seduce him even when he’s at his workplace!
Knowing how to talk dirty to your husband can make things a little bit interesting in the bedroom. It’s can improve your sex life and build a deeper intimacy connection with your partner.
The main function of talking dirty is to turn him on and ignite the spark in his brain to dramatically enhance your sex experiences. When you talk dirty to your husband, it shows that you’re 100% present and enjoying the moment.
Talking dirty is a huge topic and full of excitement. That why we created a free guide for the beginner on how to talk dirty to your man. If you like to learn more regarding this topic, we highly recommend you to check it out.
3. Try new sexual positions
Don’t do the same tricks every time you making love. You need to be willing to experiment and try new positions as long as you are comfortable with it. Difference positions will produce different results.
As an example, some positions can make you feel tighter, and some of it can make him be able to go deeper to feel other parts of you more easily. One tip that can make your partner be able to thrust in as deeply as possible is by putting your legs higher up.
If this position is not too comfortable, you can just put your legs up around his waist. You can get a similar result and it easier to maintain the position without putting extra pressure on your waist.
Just for your information, not every position you try will feel great. But you need to be open during the process. You can go back to your favorite position anytime you wanted.
Another position that worth trying is to climb on top of your husband. Usually, in another position, he’s the one doing the moving. But when you’re at the top, you are more in control and have the most power.
So you can satisfy him and let him enjoy the ride. Here a good video from GLAMerotica101, she explains very well how to ride your man (basic movement). She also highlighted the basic mistakes that most women did.
4. Take the lead in the bedroom
Your man wants you to take charge once in a while. He might not say or ask you, but he would really love it. Sometimes, men get tired because they are always the one initiating sex.
According to Men’s Health, based on their poll survey about guys sex lives; 1400 from 2500 men find their bedroom activity unsatisfying. Fifty-six percent of them rate their sex lives as no better than C.
Here the question and the result:
Question: Guys, how would you rate your current sex life?
It’s an A: 16%
It’s a B: 28%
It’s a C: 24%
It’s a D: 14%
It’s an F: 18%
Men’s Health’s Editor-in-Chief, David Zinczenko said, all of them seem to have one desire. They wish that their partner would turn the bedroom into a Sadie Hawkins dance once in a while.
So what you can do as a woman is break the norm, get on his top and show him who’s the boss. You cannot always wait for them to feel horny, you need to learn how to turn up the heat and initiate sex. Don’t ever think that this is a man’s job solely.
It’s okay if you feel awkward at first, but once you know how to take the lead, you’ll be initiating sex all the time. If you want some ideas on how to start initiate sex, then this post might help: how to spice up the bedroom.
5. Give him little more EXTRA pleasure
Let him enjoy you more! Guys love seeing women getting aroused and experience climaxes. He wants you to share that pleasure with him. In other words, if you want to keep him sexually satisfied, you need to make sure he knows how to please you.
There are a few simple steps you can do that can give him extra pleasure. Here is an example:
Leave the lights on when you making love. Let him see you and your body while you make love. Plus, you can wear something that is sexy and revealing to turn up the heat.
Let him see your face when you experience climaxes. There are no guys who don’t love seeing his partner face when she reaches climax. Tell him what you gonna experience and look straight to his eyes. This can make you feel much closer emotionally.
Just forget about how your face will look like. You may feel awkward at first, but it draws you together so much.
Break up the pleasure. Do you know what the importance of changing sexual position? It is to break up the pleasure. If your husband getting super excited, stop and switch position. He might not like it, so you need to distract him with your touch and kissing. After you think he had enough, let him move again. Repeat this process as much as you want.
You also can ask him to stop because you want to make a move. Make it in a position that feels great for you. As an example, stay at his top and give him a ride. Then ask him to move a little bit, stop him when he getting excited, and switch positions.
The reason is to slow things a bit and drags everything out, then when he finally does climax, it’s even more intense for him.
Squeeze him! Use your vaginal muscle to squeeze him. When he is getting excited and close to climax, start squeezing him inside you. Men love that, it will put him over the top and don’t forget to see his face reaction when you do this.
If you’re not sure how to do this, you can google “Kegel Exercise”. It’s basically known as pelvic floor exercise and use to strengthen your vaginal muscle.
Hopefully, after having practiced all these tips, you can get your heat back with your husband. Make your husband sexual needs a priority as well as yours. If you had any extra tips that you want to share with us, please leave your comment below. We love to hear back from you!
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