How To Tackle Your Man’s Hero Instinct

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Man’s hero instinct is something all men have buried down in their hearts. It is their deepest desire for meaning and purpose. But still, this hero instinct is quite a controversial topic, it has been debated a lot online, some people may believe about its existence, and some may not.

Whichever you choose to believe is totally depend on you. Because whether you agree or not, both answers have their own valid points. But for me, regardless of the name, I choose to believe that this hero instinct exists.

And if you don’t agree with me but still interested to get to know more about man’s hero instinct, you can just treat it as one of the strategies to make your man fall for you. Okay, let’s start with the basics first.

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What Is A Man’s Hero Instinct?

A hero is defined as someone that we are admired for bravely doing something or achieve something great. Just like women go crazy over Marvel heroes who are daring enough to run towards the danger and doing things that other people failed to do.

Yeah, it is fascinating enough to watch those cool heroes spring into action, take risks, overcome the obstacle, protect their women, and place themselves in danger just to save the world. Sometimes you could be overwhelmed with jealousy and start to build hope for the hero to actually present so that he can be yours.

Truth to be told, heroes that go around saving the world and hardly injured only exist in your favorite movies. But still, in reality, you literally can have your own hero by triggering a man’s hero instinct in your man.

Man wants to be a hero in women’s eyes, as he likes to feel needed. Hero instinct is known within the Native American. It’s built into their culture as warriorism.

As a warrior, they protect their tribes from enemies and fed their tribes by hunting. Psychologically, it’s about satisfaction, a men desire to feel important. They want to show how useful, strong, and effective he is among his peers.

If you relate this behavior with our modern society nowadays, where wealth and other great accomplishments are gained to show that he is able to shoulder up responsibilities. It’s become preferable and attractive for a man to have this quality.

The same theory was used for relationship purposes. It’s has been theorized that women should appeal to man’s hero instinct in order to keep peace and respect in a relationship.

Men Are Born With Hero Instinct.

Hero instinct is a biological drive, just like thirst, hunger, and sex. It is a man’s desire to feel important and strong in his own circle. It inspires them to become better and push forward to maintain the status or standard that was created by themselves.

Men are born with this immature instinct at first. You can clearly see the signs of a hero when you look at the boy’s interest. Most of the young boys have some part of him who wants to be a Hero. Either they want to be a Superman, Batman, Ironman, Spiderman, you name it.

And the reason is quite simple, they think heroes are good, heroes can protect their family, heroes can protect the girl they loved and heroes can save the world!

But this interest will slowly fade when they grew up. It’s not that it 100% gone, but after they gain experiences, and see how the world works, their perspective changes. Their hero instinct starts to grow up into the mature form and make him become a proper grown-up man.

Man’s hero instinct is indirectly contributed to the relationship. If you look at your man closely, you will realize that they’re always looking out after you, taking care of you, and make sure everything is going well for you.

They try their best to make you happy, provide you pleasure, and make sure you feel safe. They never ask you or talk to you about this. But deep down inside, they want to prove to you how worthy and capable he is for you.

Man adores those who admire him and his effort. So when you appreciate him and put your trust in him, he will feel needed and special. It gives him hope and belief that you are the one for him for the rest of his life.

By doing this. you could be your man’s deepest passion and priority in his life. His heart will be yours and he’ll do anything just to make you happy.

How To Get Your Man’s Attention By Unlocking His Hero Instinct.

According to James Bauer, a relationship coach for over 12 years. He shared that during his work in these industries, when he coached men, he heard over and over again that they (men) wanted to feel that they were important and special to their women.

In other words, they wanted to feel like their hero.

It’s something that men need in order to feel women’s love.

Men adore those who admire his hard work or see him as Superman, a dependable man in all things.

James also believed that, no matter how in love that man is, if the woman he is with doesn’t bring out his hero instinct, he will feel like something is missing. There is a hole in their heart.

That said, getting to know how to tackle your man’s hero instinct, can make you able to take a positive action to influence your man’s emotion and bringing him closer to you.

After long research and doing case studies about his clients, James Bauer discovers something about a man’s hero instinct. Then he compiled all the resources to write a guide called ‘His Secret Obsession’, I will share the link down below.

James technique can be very helpful if you’re facing this type of problem:

  • You feel like you’re just a placeholder
  • You think a lot about him, but he only thinks of himself
  • He says he loves you but isn’t in love with you
  • Why won’t he commit to you?
  • Why does he so quiet? What is he really thinking?
  • Why does he start ignoring you?
  • Does he really love you? Or he just wants to be alone?
  • It’s already over, but you want him back.

His guide helps women to understand specific tricks and phrases that can be used to improve their relationship. He also teaches you how to build attraction and how to understand what your man wants in a relationship.

Here the link for James Bauer’s explanation. But don’t click it yet! My suggestion is, you can check on the video first and come back here to read my detailed explanation about the guide, which can be found here: His Secret Obsession Review.

Or you can just read my explanation first before you check on the video. Both ways are fine.

So basically, men fall for women because of how those women make them feel.

When a man feels like a hero in a woman’s eyes, he will give his heart and his undying loyalty to her.

Most of the women think they can earn a man’s appreciation by doing a lot of things for him. But it works backward. The more you appreciate him, the more he will appreciate you. When he appreciates you, he will give more attention to you.

It triggers his ‘hero instinct‘.

These are a few examples of how to trigger your man’s hero instinct.

1# Ask for his help.

Independent women are great, but men will feel like a dumb guy around them. Okay, try to recall back your action toward your man, did you do everything for him like her mother? Or are you feeling dissatisfied with your man’s help because you think you can do better?

Well, it is good that you can do all the things by yourself. But when you didn’t give him a chance to do something, you just make him feel useless and discontented with themselves.

As your man, he needs to know that you do need him to some extent. He wants you to ask for his help when you are in need, without thinking twice. Do you remember this song?

I’m only one call away
I’ll be there to save the day
Superman got nothing on me
I’m only one call away

And when you’re weak, I’ll be strong
I’m gonna keep holding on
Now don’t you worry, it won’t be long, darling
And when you feel like hope is gone
Just run into my arms

Charlie Puth – One Call Away

This is exactly how men are thinking. They want you to ask them for help when you need them. Even though they are not as strong as Superman, they still strive their best to look after you. No matter how bad things are, they just want you to know that they are behind you to support you no matter what.

Plus, you didn’t need to wait for something big to happen before you can ask for his help. What you can do is, start asking for his help no matter how trivial the things are. It’s doesn’t make you needy, but it makes you a woman with space for a man.

For example, when you tell him about your works, try to get a piece of advice or personal opinion from him. It might not look like a big deal for you, but getting him into an important discussion will make him feel needed and special.

If your car got a flat tire, ask him to help you out.

If you can’t open a tight jar when you cook, go to him for help.

This small simple gesture is going to make them feel needed and manly. Let be honest here, which hero doesn’t like to feel manly? Am I right?

Lastly, don’t forget to say thank you with a big smile of appreciation for his kind assistance. If you practice this, he will be your own superhero in the most random everyday things.

2# Thanks to him for every single thing he does.

Remember that I’m saying the more you appreciate him, the more he will appreciate you back? Well, the easiest way to show your appreciation is through the word “thank you”.

This simple phrase is very powerful than you could ever realize. Thank him for every little thing that he does for you.

Did he help you with the chores?

Thank him.

Did he drive you to work?

Thank him.

Did he cook you a meal?

Thank him.

He’s the real hero to you every single day, even though you may not see it. Maybe he just dropped everything in his hand in order to help you. Or, he is the only one who still believes in you when nobody else won’t. Maybe his advice gives you the courage to make a difficult decision.

We tend to take things for granted, that’s why sometimes we didn’t see the positive value in our partner.

3# Respect is earned not given.

Respect comes along with admiration and honor which showed for someone who you think they have good qualities and important. And your man is searching for that.

He works hard to earn your respect. He wants to prove to himself that he’s able to that. So please don’t take away his purpose. Instead, give him space and opportunity to prove themselves. Your main role is to support him.

Take a step back and let him win over you. It’s rare to see a woman who’s can satisfy this emotional need in men. And if you do, you can captivate his heart so that he’ll spend his entire life with you.

Overall Conclusion

The key to unlocking your man’s attention is NOT about everything you do for him. But it’s about how you RESPOND to everything he does for you.

When you have done everything for him, look after him, and make time for him. In the process, you’re actually taking something away from him. You’re taking away his purpose.

He wants to be your hero, not the other way around.

If his hero instinct is not being met, his attention will wander around until he finds a woman who can give it to him. Maybe only one from a thousand women who are known to do this instinctively. And they usually rise to unbelievable levels of influence and fame.

Trust me, when you know the secret of man’s hero instinct, you will be shocked by the result of the man you love. And if you’re interested to learn more about the secret of man’s hero instinct, I recommend you to check out this link and read my detailed explanation about the guide here.

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If you’re struggling with what to say to your man to bring the relationship closer together, you may need to check my other post: What to text a guy you like.

It’s may help you to get a better idea of how to text your guys. I also share a lot more information on what you should and what you shouldn’t when you’re texting with him.

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