How To Tackle Your Man’s Hero Instinct

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Hero is define as someone that we are admired for bravely doing something or achieve something great. Just like women go crazy over Marvel heroes who are daring enough to save the world in spite of their nice figure and face. Truth to be told, heroes that go around save the world and hardly injured only exist in your favorite movies.

Yeah, it is fascinating enough to watch those cool heroes spring into action just to save the world and protect their women. Sometime you could overwhelm with jealousy and start to build hope for the hero to actually presence so that he can be yours.

tackle your mans hero insticnt

In reality, you literally can have your own hero by triggering a hero instinct in your men. Man wants to be heroes in women’s eyes, as he like to feel needed. Hero instinct is known within the Native American. It’s built into their culture as warriorism.

As a warrior, they protect their tribes from enemies and fed their tribes by hunting. Psychologically, it’s about satisfaction, a men desire to feel important. They want to show how useful, strong, and effective he is among his peers.

If you relate this behavior with our modern society nowadays, where wealth and other great accomplishment are gained to show that he is able to shoulder up responsibilities. It’s becomes preferable and attractive for a man to have this quality.

The same theory was used for relationship purpose. It’s has been theorized that women should appeal to man’s hero instinct in order to keep peace and respect in relationship. By doing this. you could be your man deepest passion and priority in his life. His heart will be yours and he’ll do anything just to make you happy.

How To Get Your Man’s Attention.

Hero instinct is a biological drive, just like thirst, hunger and sex. It’s a men desire to feel important and strong between his own circle. It’s inspire them to become better and push forward to maintain the status or standard that was created by themselves.

Man’s adores those who admire his courage and effort.

Basically, men fall for women because of ‘how those women make them feel‘.

When a man feel like a hero in a woman’s eyes, he will give his heart and his undying loyalty to her.

Most of women think they can earn a man appreciation by doing a lot of things for him. But it’s works backward. The more you appreciate him, the more he will appreciates you. When he appreciate you, he will give more attention to you.

It’s triggers his ‘hero instinct’.

This is a few example ways on how to trigger your man hero instinct.

1# Ask for his help

Don’t think that you can do all things by yourself. Independent women are great but men feel like a dumb guy around her. Most probably she will feel dissatisfied with men’s help because she can do better. Thus, make men feel useless and always doing something wrong.

What you can do is to always ask for his help no matter how trivial the things is. It’s doesn’t make you needy, but it’s make you a woman with space for a man.

Ask him to open a tight jar for you. Ask a piece of advice from him whenever you want to make a decision will work too. Ask him to changes your car’s tire because you think he is more expert and knowledgeable. And do not forget to say thank you with a big smile of appreciation.

Become His Secret Obsession

According to James Bauer, a relationship coach for over 12 years. He shared that during his work in this industries, when he coached a men, he heard over and over again that they (men) wanted to feel that they were important and special to their woman.

In other words, they wanted to feel like their hero.

It’s something that men’s need in order to feel women’s love.

Men adores those who’s admire his hard work, or see him as Superman, a dependable man in all things.

James also believed that, no matter how in love that man is, if the women he’s with doesn’t bring out his hero instinct, he’ll feel like something is missing.

So if you know how to tackle your man’s hero instinct, you can take a positive action to influence your man’s emotion and bringing him closer to you.

Here, you may need to check James Bauer presentation video.

James technique can be very helpful if you’re facing this type of problem:

  • You feel like you’re just a placeholder
  • You think a lot about him, but he only thinks of himself
  • He say he love you, but isn’t in love with you
  • Why won’t he commit to you?
  • Why does he so quiet? What is he really thinking?
  • Why he start ignoring you?
  • Does he really love you? Or he just want to be alone?
  • It’s already over, but you want him back.

His guide helps women to understand specific trick and phrase to improve their relationship. He also teach you on how to build attraction and how to understand what your man want in relationship.

Here the link for James Bauer presentation video.

2# Thanks him for every single thing he does

Remember that I’m saying the more you appreciate him, the more he will appreciates you back. The easiest way to show your appreciation is through the word “thank you”.

This simple phrase is very powerful than you could ever realized. Thanks him for every little thing that he does to you.

Did he help you with the chores?

Thank him.

Did he drive you to work?

Thank him.

Did he cook you a meal?

Thank him.

He’s the real hero to you everyday, even though you may not see it. Maybe he dropped everything just to help you. Maybe he’s the only one who’s still believe in you when nobody else won’t. Maybe his advice give you courage to make a difficult decision.

We tend to take things for granted, that’s why sometime we didn’t see the positive value in our partner.

3# Respect is earn not given

Respect come along with admiration and honor which shown for someone who you think they have a good qualities and important. And your man is searching for that.

He work hard to earn your respect. He want to prove himself that he’s able to that. Don’t take away his purpose. Instead give him space and opportunity to show his hero instinct. You main role is to support him.

It’s rare to see a women who’s can satisfy this emotional need in men. And if you do, you can captivate his heart so that he’ll spend his entire life with you.

Unlock Your Man Attention

The key to unlock your man attention is NOT in everything you do for him. But it’s about how you RESPOND to everything he does for you.

When you done everything for him, look after him, and make time for him. In the process, you’re actually taking something away from him. You’re taking away his purpose.

He wants to be your hero, not the other way around.

If his hero instinct is not being met, his attention will wander around until he finds a woman who can give it to him. Maybe only one from a thousand women who’s know to do this instinctively. And they usually rise to unbelievable levels of influence and fame.

Trust me, when you know the secret of man’s hero instinct, you will be shocked with the result from the man you love. And if you’re interested to learn more about the secret of man’s hero instinct, I recommend you check out this video.

Any other suggestion please leave your comment below. We love to hear your feedback! 🙂

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It’s may help you to get a better idea on how to text your guy’s. I also share a lot more information on what you should and what you shouldn’t when you’re texting with him.



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