Having a positive relationship makes you happier mentally and physically. You will be less stressed and become more productive. So it’s important for you to understand why you need a positive relationship in your life.
Let me explain…
According to Maslow’s hierarchy, after physiological and safety needs have been fulfilled, love and belongingness is the third level of human needs. This love and belongingness are defined in a romantic relationship between two compatible individuals.
Typically, people exaggerate what they feel about love. As an example, when you fall in love, you might have a sleepless night because you miss your partner. Or you don’t mind sacrificing something important to you for your lover’s sake.
Or the worst part, you don’t mind dying for your love one. Like what happened to Romeo and Juliet.
Well, believe it or not, most of it is true as love is a powerful, strong, and positive emotional as well as mental state that gives you the courage to do all that.
But, once you have reached another phase of life which is marriage, you will start to learn something new. There’s no longer Romeo and Juliet, but it started to feel like Nicole and Charlie from “Marriage Story.”
At this time, you may keep questioning yourself. Why did this thing happen? It is because of my love fading away? And what should I do to keep my partner happy?
Yeah, it sounds so messed up but remembers, ‘A relationship is like a house. When a light-bulb burns out you do not go and buy a new house, you fix the light bulb’. So here are some secrets on how to make your relationship remain positive and lasts longer.
1# Communication is the key
Have you ever heard a song from Justin Bieber entitle “What do you mean?” This song might sound catchy but it actually tells us a reality, which a boy who is confused and always misunderstand what the girl wants.
So, in order to solve the problem we need to improve communication with our partner even on small things. Girls, do not let boys solve a puzzle that you create, they will hardly succeed while boys please encourage your girls to talk on what they feel frequently.
2# Let go of your ego
Ego is not something you should keep if you want a healthy relationship. Just tell your partner right away anything that you feel inside. Express your feeling sincerely by dropping your ego. Say sorry when you are wrong and ask for forgiveness when you’re wrong. It might sound simple but that is the best remedy to solve the problem.
3# Be careful of what you say
When you were arguing with your partner beware of the words that you use. It is true that the tongue has no bones but it is firm enough to break a heart. Just like ‘A gentle answer turns away rage, but a harsh word stirs up anger’.
4# Nourish your love
Some relationship ends because they were bored with their partner. Having the same routine every day, tired getting off from work, and also tremendous workload cause them to spend less time with their partner.
Thus, they feel nothing interesting in their relationship anymore. Therefore, nourish love continuously would be the best answer.
Try to spend more time with them, for instance, go for a picnic, watch movies, or go for a vacation. A celebration on anniversary or surprise birthday party also is really recommended just to make them feel they are still valuable and precious for you.
5# Be mature in your relationship
Immature people tend to have an unsuccessful relationship because they kept on blaming each other despite finding a solution. Obstacles are much easier to overcome if you are being rational. Being immature is one of the most reasons your partner pulling away from you.
Being mature is a skill that you should learn in order to keep your relationship strong and healthy. Your partner is also a human, which is capable of making mistakes. Let patience give you strength and maturity helps you make the right decision.