A positive relationship and successful marriage is the foundation of a happy family. It helps you create a pleasant environment in the house. In today’s article, we share the secrets to a happy marriage from a man’s perspective, which is from my personal observation of old and young couples whose marriages have remained spirited and lively.
It’s must be good if all the marriage remains happy and forever young. But that not the case, some of us do struggle with the married life. The journey of married life is full of adventures, ups, and downs, regardless of how long you’ve been married.
1- Completing each other
Marriage is about a combination of two different characters of people that completing each other. David Willis wrote in his book entitled “The Seven Law of Love” – “A perfect marriage is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other.”
Nobody born as a perfect person, the same goes for us and our partner. So it’s become our responsibility to learn and accept our partner wholeheartedly. Lower your expectation is one of the ways to accept your partner as a whole.
We need to remember, before we got married, we have our own busy life or a different career path that we want to achieve. So don’t expect your partner to provide all the attention and love you demand all the time. Instead, keep supporting each other to chase your own dream.
2- Ask for forgiveness
Sorry – A simple yet a very powerful word. Every couple needs to learn to say sorry. If our day weren’t so great during the day, ask for forgiveness before you go to bed. It’s extremely important to sort matters out so you not gonna need to bring them over the next day.
It’s could be as simple as:
“Sorry, I wake up late ….”
“Sorry if I raised my voice because of ….”
“Sorry for not helping you …”
We as normal human beings do make mistakes. Learn from the mistake, ask, and receive the gift of forgiveness from our partner.
3- Respect your partner
To have a great happy marriage, there needs to have a high level of respect for both partners. Do not belittle your partner, ever! Work as a team, let your partner know that you’re considerate, compassionate, and honest.
If you do not agree with your partner in a certain discussion or topic, discuss the situation respectfully. It’s true that you can’t always be on the same page with your partner, and that’s perfectly normal. Do not say something like:
“I couldn’t agree with your stupid idea …”
“I can’t believe you ….”
I might say this rude, instead, take time to listen to your partner’s opinion and respond to it properly. Maybe you could say something like this:
“I love your idea, perhaps we could ….”
“I agree with you, maybe we can …”
Used the word “we” rather than “I”. Read my other post on how to communicate effectively in a relationship. Remember, your partner is a reflection of you. If you not respecting your partner, why he/she should respect you?
4- Show gratitude
It’s immensely important to show gratitude in every relationship, including marriage. A most simple acts of kindness that cost nothing but bring lasting rewards to your marriage life.
Put yourself in your partner’s shoes, get to know what your partner has been through all this time. Try to look at it from a different angle. Appreciate them, never take your partner for granted. You should always be feeling grateful to your partner.
Say thank you for the little things they do. Whenever they cook for you say thank you. If you see your partner cleaning the house say thank you.
If you are a guy and you’ve been married for many, many years, and you never do this to your partner, then you should try it. Lets your partner know that you appreciate them from the bottom of your heart.
5- Take care of your appearance
With many years passed and a few kids under your care, it’s easy to let your appearance slide. Most of us never care to look good at home. We lose our interest in our look, we were just too comfortable with our space (which is our home, and slowly we didn’t care about our partner). The same happens to our spouse.
Think again about when you and your partner first met. Did you just wear sweatpants with messy hair? Definitely no. Looking appealing and attractive is crucial for a happy married life.
It’s true that physical appearance in marriage is not the most important thing for a happy married life. But it does play a vital part in your married life. You can make your spouse feel attracted to you without making any effort.
But it must work both ways, we can expect our partner to well-groomed if we ourselves look piggish and dirty.
6- Hang in there
Married life is a long journey, sometimes circumstances can get tough and we are not sure what to do. This can put both you on your partner a considerable amount of stress and apprehension.
If this happens, the very first step that you should take is to hang in there together, no matter how hard things get. As soon as you decide that, a bond of unity will be automatically formed together.
7- Spend some time apart
If your partner wants to be alone doing their own thing for a while, give your partner some time and space. Most people think that staying close to each other all the time is a good idea for a happy relationship, but it is not.
Take a break from one another and also take a break from your usual tedious lives by going on vacation every few months is highly recommended. The fact is, putting some distance between you and your partner for a few days actually make you grow closer to each other.
Maintaining a healthy happy marriage is not an easy task. Everyone has their own preference, mindset, respective inhibitions, and weakness. So it’s important for you to learn how to tolerate and appreciate the differences.