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How To Talk Dirty To Your Man: Beginners Guide

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Knowing how to talk dirty to your man can make things a little bit more interesting in the bedroom. It’s can actually improve your relationship, your sex life, and build a deeper intimacy connection with your partner.

Guys love to hear naughty words and phrases that are coming from you. He felt that you actually praise him, rewards him and being honest with him. Dirty talks also can be a huge turn on for him, keep him interested and obsessed with you in a long term relationship.

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Basically knowing exactly what to say to your partner can blow his mind and make him want you more. This is a huge advantage for you to spice up your relationship.

However, many women seem to have a problem with this, or I could say lack of experiences. Maybe they never know about this, not suitable for them, not interested or they had a negative view of this topic.

Well, if you think you’re not suited to do this, it’s okay, just be yourself. But if you want to learn how to fire up your relationship and why men love dirty talk then this guide is definitely for you.

What you will learn from this guide:

There are a ton of things that you will need to learn first before you start talking dirty to your partner. A simple mistake will hunt you for the rest of your life! XD

Talking dirty to your man is an art, so take your time to learn how to do this, don’t rush. Good preparation will increase your chances to keep going smoothly.

To help you get a clear view of what you’ll learn from this guide, we’ve put together an interactive table of contents. Click each link to read your preferable subtopic.

Or you can scroll down to start from the beginning.

Why you should talk dirty to your man?

The main reason you should talk dirty to your man is to make him keeps thinking about you. Let him obsessed with you.

By using dirty talk in a more subtle way, you basically playing with your man mind. He was not sure about what you mean and as result, he will end up constantly thinking about you. Or it could be that he really loves it when you talk dirty with him, he wants more and the result? He will keep thinking about you. This is crucial to keep him attracted.

Secondly, no matter how you personally feel about talking dirty, men’s love dirty talk. You have no idea how hot and arousing it can be when you do it the right way.

Dirty talk is often overlooked, whereas it’s very powerful. It’s supercharged sexual polarity, activates the imagination, increases sexual tension and sexual desire.

But still, you need to be very careful. Just like sex itself, the dirty talk also needs to be used at the right person with the right time. There’s no way one phrase is suitable for everyone. As an example, maybe what you personally qualify as ‘dirty talk’ is something that your partner find offensive, silly or insane.

So stay focused, let’s go through one by one.

Don’t rush, just be yourself

Don’t force yourself to talk dirty to your man. Practice and let it happen naturally. If the moment doesn’t feel right, don’t use it, yet. Start slowly, try to use one or phrase at first. See what your partner reaction, if he gets really turned on, you can keep on going and push it a little further each time.

Another option, you can directly ask your partner opinion, what he feels about talking dirty, if he not sure, ask him to try it with you. Starting slowly also can build up your confidence. You’ll be more comfortable and less pressure.

And don’t try to be like someone else. Your man only wants you because of you, so that is exactly what you should give him. Say what on your mind and express how you’re feeling. The main concept of talking dirty is very simple. Before sex, say what you want, while you’re doing it, specifically describe what you like about it.

Be detail

To make your dirty talk become more powerful, you need to be more details. Describe exactly what you want to do with him, so he can get a clear picture. The more detailed you describe, the easier for him to get turned on.

Usually, people will use a phrase like this:

“Yeah, I like that!”

“You look so hot right now!”

“I want more!”

Well, there’s nothing wrong with it. But if you put some little extra effort to that phrase, it can be more powerful. As an example, you can change it to something like this:

“Oh Yeah, keep doing that. I love how you ……”

“You have such a big long cock, please don’t stop …”

Be detail, when you’re doing it, specifically describe what you like about it. Men brains are hard-wired to please women sexually. He always has a thought whether he’s done his job right or not to please you. So when you talk dirty in detail, he knows that you like it and he will be more excited.

Don’t use too much of profanity

Every man love dirty talk, but not every man likes it the same. Man has their own particular trigger words to turn him or it could turn him off.

Normally, women might be tempted to use swear words to talk dirty. But, keep in mind, some man may not interested tt filled their dirty talk with swear words.

Some man may like to be called as a slave, some may not too comfortable with it. That’s why it is important to discuss this topic with your partner, just to make sure if there are any other words that you need to avoid in your dirty talk.

And make sure to discuss it when you aren’t being sexual with each other, if not you will spoil the mood. If you think the early discussion will spoil the mood, then you’re wrong. Actually, it shows your respect for your partner. It doesn’t ruin the mood, instead, it enhances the feeling of comfort, safety, and connection.

Adapt and adjust

There’s a lot of sexy dirty talk examples that you can read online. I will share with you some of the phrases below. But it’s just the list of examples. Some may suitable for you, some may not. Try to adapt with the most you suitable for first.

Start with basic phrases first. If you get a great response from your man, you can move forward to try sexier phrases. Adapt and adjust, from there you can start forming your own sexy dirty talk phrase.

Here the list of dirty talk examples, I split it into three part:

Stage 1: Noob Level

P/s: If you’re a gamer, maybe you don’t like this level ;P

“I’m getting so wet right now”

“Just lie back and let me take care of you”

“I want to feel you inside of me”

“I want more…”

“Do you like that?”

“You can have me any way you want baby”

“Let me serve you tonight”

“I want you to tease me until I can’t take it any longer”

“I love to see your face while you feel climax”

“Your cum feels so good inside me”

“Show me how bad you can be”

“I want to bury your face in between my legs”

“I love how soft your balls are”

“I love your smell”

“Can we go harder?”

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Stage 2: Intermediate Level

So if you already start to enjoy talking dirty with your partner. Maybe you need to go with something new. Something that you’ve never tried before. Check this list and grab your few favorite phrases. And if this still not enough for you, you can skip to the next level.

“I want you to cum all over me”

“Your cock fits in me so perfectly”

“I love it when you squeeze my boobs”

“It’s really hurt when it goes deep in me, still I am desperate for it”

“Let me ride you over until you cum”

“Don’t stop, keep going, keep going”

“Pound my little pussy with your big cock daddy”

“I want you to be as loud as you can when you cum”

“Let me bite your neck, you naughty boy!”

“I want you to cum inside me”

Stage 3: Pro Level

Some of you may not comfortable with this. And it’s okay if you don’t want to use it. Plus, if you’re in a new relationship you should avoid it, this is more suitable for experiences married couples. Discuss with your partner first, if they love it why not?

Good girls have gone bad, right ladies?

“I want you to spank me and pulling my hair”

“Scream louder, I can’t hear you!”

“Fuck me harder, you naughty boy!”

“Be my slave, and fuck me hard!”

“Use me like your little fuck doll”

“Fuck me you naughty boy, don’t stop!”

“Don’t close your eyes, look at me. Give me every last drop of your delicious cum”

There are a lot more phrases that you can think of. If you want more ideas, maybe you need to check my other post, 100+ sexting ideas to talk dirty.

And if you have any interesting phrases that are not listed here you’re welcome to share it on the comment section below. Sharing is caring.

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Don’t go overboard

Dirty talk could be sexy and arousing, but if you don’t handle it carefully, you may end up spoil the mood.

Last time I got an email asking about this problem. “She said already talk dirty to her partner A LOT. At first, her partner was very excited and wanted her more. But right now, he makes a distance and feels annoys. Why?”

The answer is very clear, she went overboard!

Instead of using dirty talk to enhances the sexual feeling and get connected, she tried to use it as a main course. You can’t use dirty talk all day, it’s not right. As I said before, you need to use it at the right time with the right place.

Slow down when necessary, even when you’re doing it. You can’t sustain a high level of mutual arousal all the time. So make sure to pull back a little when things really get going. Enjoy the moment is a way better than thinking the next phrases to talk dirty.

It’s not what you said, it’s how you say it

If you’re not sure what to say to your man, you can just google it. There is a lot of list of how to talk dirty to your man. But most of it just a bundle of the list. You need to learn how to use the list.

You can’t simply buy a weapon without even know how to use that weapon. Same goes to talking dirty list phrases. I didn’t say the list is not important, but how to use the list is far more important.

Specific words that you use didn’t make a much different. But, your intentions, your attitude, your voice, your body movement and the way you address your man is your real deal. If you manage to combine all of this together, you can become a dirty talk goddess.

Don’t bother trying to memorize all the phrases that you got from the list. Instead, concentrate on the attitude and style that will enhance the effectiveness of the talking dirty. Talking dirty to your man is your chance to make him obsessed with you.

Combine it with body language

This ties directly with the point above. Dirty talk will be more powerful if you combine it with the nonverbal signals. The main keywords for this technique are “your confidence”.

How you look like to your man when you talk dirty?

Women are naturally shy, which is no problem and I love that. But when you’re alone with your partner, it’s okay to be more daring. Feeling that you are sexy and powerful will help you to convey the right energy to your message.

Remember, self-confidence is attractive. Don’t let a few scars or stretch mark on your body make you loss of confidence. You’re more than that! So don’t afraid to express yourself sexually.

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If you’re not confident, start your dirty talk via text

If you are not comfortable to start talking dirty to your partner, you can start off by sending text messages. Start with a simple naughty joke with your partner. Another term that they used for talking dirty by using text messages is ‘sexting’.

Sexting can be a great way to build up your talking dirty experiences in person. There’s no pressure because you’re not actually with that person, you just sent him a text. You also get a lot of time to think about what you are actually going to say.

So it’s important for you to learn about dirty talk using text. Honestly, simple text messages can excite your man, you just to know which words are the most effective to use. Here you can check my other article 100+ sexting ideas to blow your man mind.

Timing matters

Remember the one who used dirty talk a lot and said it’s not working anymore?

Because she went overboard and use it all the time. Let say you tell your partner that you want to be taken right now in the middle of breakfast? How should he respond to that? Maybe he just laughing because he thinks that you just make a joke.

But it’s doesn’t mean that you need to limit your dirty talk to your bedroom. It’s can be anywhere, you just need the “right time” to do that.

That why timing matters, it’s not hard to tackle your man with dirty talk. You just need to know to use it at the right time. As an example, try sending him a suggestive text a half hour before he leaves works. My partner loves to that, and I’m always excited when I got her text messages.

She will play around on what she wants to do with me, she will prepare a little surprised, sexy lingerie and a lot more. When first time she doing this for me, I am shocked, speechless and at the same time very excited! Suddenly she’s become very hot and sexy.

She is the reason why I do a lot of research on talking dirty, men psychology, how man brains function, man hero instinct and etc. Because for me, she gets the result on what she wanted.

At first, I’m very curious, how come she suddenly become so expert in this ‘things’. So after a lot of detective works, I found out that she actually learns that kind of tricks from the Language of Desire by Felicity Keith’s.

It was created in order to be able to understand the sexual psychology of men. And how to unlock the secret erotic language of the masculine mind. The author, Felicity Keith’s also found that once she was able to do this, she could give her man more intense, connected and erotic experiences.

Dirty Talk Jazzed Up Your Sex Life

I hope this article shed some light and spark some ideas for you to get started. It can be a little uncomfortable at first, but the best thing you can do is start with something easy, and just gets your lips to move on.

The journey of a thousand miles begin with one step. – Lao Tzu

Start small, practice, and ask your partner opinion if they have any particular words that he dislikes or loves to hear. Depending on what stage of your relationship, you will probably have a different level of comfort and ideas on how these things work.

So the best option is to start and slowly increase your level as time goes by. Always remember, the purpose of talking dirty is to stimulate and please each other.

Overall, getting into dirty talk with your partner or husband can be very sexually satisfying experiences. It’s can strengthen your relationship and bring you closer. No matter what your perspective about talking dirty, most of the men can’t resist it. It is one of the best ways to seduce your man.

Try sending one text message to check how your partner feels and see the difference it makes in your love life.

If you love reading this article on how to talk dirty to your man, then you’ll also love this powerful video presentation here, if you wish to learn the true power of talking dirty.

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100+ Sexting Examples To Blow Your Man Mind

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Have you been flirting with someone and want to blow his mind even he is not in the same room as you? Or it could be that you’re in a long-distance relationship, but you still want to keep your partner happy? Here we compile 100 plus sexting examples for your man.

Well, texting plays a big role in this modern romance. And there’s a lot of ways to enjoy the relationship even though you’re part away from each other. Through texting, you can heighten intimacy, being close to your partner, and multiply the sexual energy between both of you.

If you’re new to this kind of topic, I suggest you check my other post, what to text a guy you like. This post can help you to get a better idea on how to start sending him a text. I also share a lot more information on what you should text him and what you shouldn’t.

Talking dirty is not an easy task to do for someone who’s not used to it. But it’s still important if you want to keep your relationship fun and exciting.

Basically, it’s all start with his brain. Man brain is responsible to determine sex drive and sexual pleasure. The main objective of dirty talk is to excite your man mind.

Sexting examples for your husband

Honestly, a simple text message can excite them, make him want you and blow his mind. He will be crazy for you, trust me! But don’t overuse this idea, read this list carefully and use it to your partner in a smart way. And don’t forget to bookmark this page for your future references.

  1. If I were with you right now, where would you want me to touch you?
  2. Guess what I’m thinking? It involves my tongue and …..you without pants.
  3. I’m just lying in bed bored. Do you have any idea better than sleeping?
  4. I’ve had so many dirty thoughts about you today. Wanna hear some of them?
  5. I really miss you between my leg.
  6. I love how naughty you are. Do you have any more surprise for me?
  7. I’ve had a long day today. And all I could think about today was your sexy body and what I want to do with it.
  8. I’m just lying in bed without my bra.
  9. People playing football on the field, then what should we play on the bed?
  10. What do you want me to do with you tonight?
  11. Have you ever fantasize about me sexually? Be honest and tell me…
  12. What’s your best sexual fantasy about me? Mind to share?
  13. How was your day? By the way, just wanted to tell I am alone tonight.
  14. I didn’t know someone could turn me on so much as you do.
  15. What’s one thing that you want me to do to you? Anything…
  16. I want to kiss you so badly right now.
  17. Guess the bra color that I am wearing tonight?
  18. I will be your prisoner tonight.
  19. Let me be your slave tonight.
  20. Can I be a part of your favorite fantasy?
  21. I know what you want and I think I am ready.
  22. I really like your tie, let us use it tonight.
  23. My clothes are coming off the moment I am thinking about you.
  24. I want you to go deep inside me as hard as you can.
  25. Show me how bad you can be. I want to see how naughty you get.

Learn how to seduce your boyfriend over text.

It could be to your boyfriends or your husband. You can send him some sexy text message that will turn him on. It doesn’t need to be XXX to excite him, sometimes being less explicit can actually tease him more. You just need to play with his secret fantasies.

Sexting ideas for him

  1. I would love to put my tongue all over your sexy body right now.
  2. What you do if I was in your room right now?
  3. Don’t work too hard. I want you to have plenty of energy for me tonight.
  4. If you can guess my underwear color, you can take them off.
  5. Tonight, let me do all the work. We’re going to take it slow and you’re going to scream.
  6. I want you to lie back and let me take care of you tonight.
  7. I am going to make you come so hard.
  8. I want you to tease me until I can’t take it any longer.
  9. You may look at it, but you cannot touch it, YET.
  10. How do you feel about whip cream? or Chocolate syrup?
  11. The thought of you gets me so horny…
  12. I’ve been lying on my bed naked, thinking about how you feel and what you gonna do.
  13. Nothing gets me wet, but the moment you touch me, I get wet inside…
  14. You’re not very good at pretending you don’t want me.
  15. Where do you want to touch me the most?
  16. I’m watching a sexy video of a guy who looks just like you.
  17. I’ve been a bad girl today, and I need someone to punish me tonight.
  18. It’s so hot to imagine that you’re tying me up.
  19. I keep getting this dream of you trying to undress me, are you really want to do that?
  20. I want to lick your ice cream so badly.
  21. My roommates are gone this weekend. We can be as loud as we want tonight, and I want to be loud.
  22. I’m touching myself right now, wish you were here to please me.
  23. Today is your birthday, want me to serve you tonight?
  24. If you want to serve me on my birthday, I really wish every day is my birthday.
  25. Do you know how to turn me on?
  26. It doesn’t matter where I am. I’m yours tonight.
  27. I’m lying on my bed, waiting for you with my legs open.
  28. I thought of something I want to do to you tonight.
  29. I can’t control myself when I am thinking about you.
  30. Did you want to choose what should I wear tonight?

Bonus Content: Change from sexting to phone sex

If you’re already done a lot of sexting, you can try this method.

Get yourself turned on and aroused and ready to go for more.

The perfect time to do this is when you know he will answer the phone, and he’s alone.

When he picks up the phone, you can straight away get to business using this detailed in sexting examples.

Tell him that you need to hear his voice. And let him know that you’re so turned on and already touching yourself. Invite him to your sexual fantasies, describe how you wish he was there what you want him to do to you.

Ask him to wear a blindfold. Then you need to detail with the situation, tell him that you will tie him up, use different items on his skin. As an example, an ice cube, a feather, or massage oil.

Create a story based on your sexual fantasies.

Ask him to follow whatever you say.

Taking control and telling him what he is going to do is very erotic. Make sure he response everything you ask.

You can ask him something like this:

1- Tell him to undress

2- Ask him to undress you

3- Inform him how you want he seduce you

4- Direct him to kiss, suck and nibble various body part

Instruct him the position or speed that you want.

Give him the feedback if you want him to go harder, or don’t stop!

Tell him that he’s been a bad boy and this is the time to punish him.

Give him permission to orgasm.

This is so much of excitement. Especially for a long-distance relationship, this is one of the ways to enjoy your relationship.

If you really enjoyed this, you must try the Language of Desire by Felicity Keith. It’s an awesome program that focuses on ways to overcome your shyness, lack of confidence that you may enhance your sexual life.

More dirty texts idea to turn your man on

Sexting has also been viewed as a prequel to foreplay. It’s like foreplay before foreplay to turn your partner on. Do not go overboard with sexting because it may look weird and lost his magic. All you need is just a hint of sexual explicitness.

You just need a basic idea on how to sexting, then you can play around with this list and generate your own sexting style.

  1. What are your favorite fantasies of us in bed?
  2. Here’s a riddle for you. What is cute and nice and sometimes hard all over?
  3. I just got out of the shower. You should come over and help me get dirty again.
  4. Did you want to lick my mountain?
  5. What else will you do to me? Please tell me more.
  6. I miss feeling you inside me.
  7. Why I can’t take your wet kisses out of my mind?
  8. I can’t stop thinking about my lips touching all over your skin.
  9. Nobody home tonight, I don’t mind scream as loud as you want.
  10. Try wearing nothing below your waist tonight, my finger is getting anxious to feel you there.
  11. I have a dream with you last night, but it’s stopped halfway leaving me horny and unsatisfied.
  12. I love to see your beautiful face while you feel the climax.
  13. You make me so slippery between my legs.
  14. Are you alone tonight? Because I am ready to play.
  15. Can you be my slave tonight?
  16. Sometimes I can’t help to touch myself when I think about you.
  17. Sucking on a blow pop right now and wishing it was you…
  18. I am going to sleep right now, and I will need help taking my bikini off.
  19. If you got any problem please let me know. I am here for you, and I can give you a hand…and my mouth…
  20. Tonight I’m wearing easy-to-remove clothing.
  21. What’s the dirtiest thought you’ve ever had about me? I love to hear it right now.
  22. Can you make me scream tonight?
  23. I want to bury your face in between my legs.
  24. I can’t stop thinking about tasting you in my mouth.
  25. I’m thinking about you… completely naked.

Use things that you like to fantasize about.

Sexting can bring a lot of sexual tension between a couple. It creates an atmosphere of sexual desire but there still exist physical boundaries. It looks like you can feel it but you can’t touch it, YET. This is very tempting and men’s love this!

  1. I’m not wearing any bra, can I wear your hand tonight?
  2. I want you to sit back and relax while I lick that cute nice thing.
  3. I love how soft your balls are.
  4. It is so long and big, plus it really hurts when it goes deep in me, still, I am desperate for it.
  5. Every time you make a visit in my dreams, I wake up wet in the morning.
  6. I am waiting for the day to be with you in the shower.
  7. I’ve been listening to some really naughty music and it immediately reminded me of you. Want to act out the lyrics with me tonight?
  8. Tell me what you think about when you masturbate, or should we do it together?
  9. You had no idea how much I want you inside me right now.
  10. I want you to tease me until I can’t take it any longer.
  11. Good morning. I dream of you being naughty with me. But when I woke up, I still feel horny and unsatisfied. What should I do?
  12. I love thinking about you spanking me and pulling my hair.
  13. You want me to ride you tonight?
  14. Did you love to hear me moan? Because that is what I’m gonna do right now.
  15. I love the way you slowly whisper into my ears when you bang me.
  16. It’s an amazing feeling I get when you bite my neck, squeeze my boobs, grab my waist, penetrate me deeply and treat me like a bitch.
  17. I want you to hold me tight in your arms and do whatever you want.
  18. Do you have any idea on how to please me without using your both hand?
  19. Stop thinking about me naked! Because I am right now.
  20. Just wanted to let you know that I find you very attractive and sexy…. and I just want to put my mouth on your mouth
  21. What is the one sexual fantasy you always wanted to try? I am ready to hear you out.
  22. How do you feel when I kiss your lips and neck with my hand inside your pants?
  23. I know what’s going in your dirty mind, guess what? I am ready to be part of it.
  24. I can’t believe how good it feels when you are inside me hmm…

Before you sexting, make sure your partner comfortable with this first. Ask his opinion first even though I am 99% sure that he will love it. When you’re sexting, use the words you and your partner typically use. Put any inside jokes or personal memories that both of you shared, to make it more interesting and fun.

If you don’t know where to start, simply start talking about your favorite sexual memories. Or you can refer to this guide, how to talk dirty to your man.

Sexting is the same as talking dirty. You need to try and practice. Read this list for a few times to get a basic idea and be creative!

And don’t forget to download our free guide on How to win a man’s heart. In this guidebook, we cover a specific topic that most women overlook. You might need to check that as well.