What is the real reason a guy would let go a good woman? Have you ever heard that good woman find herself difficult to get a husband? I’ve heard a lot of response from a woman saying that men leave good women because they didn’t see the good in them, or they take things for granted, or they are ungrateful men.
But is that a true reason why they would let go a good woman? Or is it just a one-sided assumption from women herself? Well, it may be true, it maybe not.
For women who just break up, the first question is always “why?”
“Why did he leave me?”
“What did I do wrong?”
“Did I offend him?”
The truth is, for men and women, who love each other, if you’re not happy with your relationship (even though you’ve been trying to improve the relationship), you’ll do what’s best for you including let her go.
So, if you’ve been shocked by the men you love unexpectedly ending the relationship, not because of the reason I state above, then there must be a something else. Maybe it’s because of the things that you’re not even realized.
From my personal observation, this is the top reason why a guy would let go a good woman.
1- He felt pressure and inadequate
Were you set any standard in your relationship? For example, he must do this and that before he got something in return. Or did you chase him to get more love and affection than what he was giving you?
If yes, then your relationship definitely is not balanced. It can be one of the reasons why he felt pressure and inadequate in your presence. To be honest, this is not your fault.
Most men usually run from their own emotional pressure (and most of them will never admit it). He just does what he does best when he’s under pressure, like escape from the source of pain in an effort to protect himself.
Men who feel inadequate most likely misinterpret your message or intention. An example, you tell your lover “We never going out anymore”, or “You used to buy me a small gift before”. It’s generally a message to your lover that you wanted them to do something that you’d enjoy.
But what they usually understand is you’re unhappy and he failed to make you happy. In his mind he feel like anything he does isn’t good enough for you.
How to overcome this problem
You can try to change the way you communicate with your lover, try not to focus on what he’s lacking. Choose your word wisely, instead of saying “We never going out anymore”, try “You’d make me happy if you can…” or “I’d love if we can…”. Focus on the positive side of his behavior on you.
Highlight any specific behavior that you want him to repeat more, make it more clear. Don’t just give him a hint and assume he already knows what you really want. Communication is essential for a happy relationship, if you struggling to communicate effectively, check out my other post on how to communicate effectively in a relationship.
2- He feels like he can’t be himself
We always heard that a guy will leave a woman because she’s “nagging” too much, or because she always trying to “fix” that guys. But that doesn’t really explain the whole picture.
When you’re already in a serious relationship, there is the time where you see your partner from a different angle, you’ll discover a new side of him that you never know before. It’s could be good or worse. So it really depends on you on how to manage this situation.
If you try to push your partner to follow your standard or make him feel like he can’t be himself around you, it’s going to grate him. This reason alone might be enough for him to leave you, even if he’s deeply in love with you.
How to overcome this problem
A great relationship is a combination of two imperfect partners, who are supporting each other to become a better person. Being honest, genuine selves with each other can keep your relationship strong. Do not try to changes your partner to follow your direction, instead, both of you need to learn on how to improve yourselves to become a better partner.
Make yourselves clear, if you don’t like the way he acts when he’s being honest and genuine to you, make a decision and move forward.
3- He’s tired of being compared to other men
Do you know what is the root of joy and happiness in every relationship for men? It’s simply because of knowing that we’re the chosen one, out of everyone in the world, by our partner. We can smile all day when we know that you choose us.
Did you remember your lover said, “thank you for choosing me” or “thank you for accepting me in your life”, right? It shows how grateful he was when you choose him to become your partner.
But when you, or your friends, or your families compared him to the other men, it hurt them so much, inside. He feels like he’s not your first choice, he has been compared negatively to the other men and he doesn’t stack up. This can erode his joy and his desire to be in the relationship.
Maybe you can say that he was soft and not up to the challenges. But deep down you know, that’s not true. Try to twist the plot, let’s say he said something to you, that you’re not good enough to be compared with his friend girlfriend. How did you feel?
No one wants to feel that way, it’s a horrible feeling. It’s enough to make him leave the relationship.
How to overcome this problem
Simple – Do not compare your partner with other people. Instead, try to compare them with a monkey or fish. It will be much better.
4- He didn’t feel respected
Maybe you’re a good fine woman with pretty eyes and beautiful hair. You have a stable income and working at a good company. But if you can’t respect your partner, your relationship simply won’t work. There are no men in the world can’t build a life with a woman who’s doesn’t respect him.
It doesn’t matter if you are older than him or make more money than him. You still need to show respect to your partner. That the basic rule in a relationship.
How to overcome the problem
He has to feel that you’re on his back beyond and above anyone else. Because you’re the key to his success and greatness. In order for him to unlock all the ability around him, he needs a deep and solid foundation of respect. With you as a high caliber women by his side, he can achieve more success and take greater risk in his life.
So now you’ve already known the reason why a guy would let go a good woman. If you one of the women, it’s time to reflect and take immediate action to rectify the situation if you still love him. Once you know to break through his defense and touch his heart, he will be yours.
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